Author Archives: David's Father

Embrace the abilities he does have

David came into our lives before we even considered adoption.  In fact, we originally were going to do foster care for kids like David.  This was long before we knew about the mental health issues that he has been diagnosed with.  He was special needs because of the way he was born, addicted to drugs.  And because of his race. He was special to us because he was loveable.  He had a smile as bright as the sun and a ready laugh.  We had an in home daycare at the time, and occasionally did day care for his foster family. If you look at pictures from his first birthday, we are there. Our whole family was. When our home study was completed, we were told that we were approved for adoption and shown a portfolio of children that were available in our state.  Kids of all ages.  We had been

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Residential Treatment Center – Application for Bed

We applied a few weeks ago to all instate Residential Treatment Centers (Psychiatric Residential Treatment Facilities – PRTF) RTC’s. We have received denials from 2 of the 3 in our state. The first one directs us to search out a facility that treats the Reactive Attachment Disorder that David has. It recommends either a facility in Utah or Colorado. It also states that David has exhausted all forms of care in the state of North Dakota.  (Honesty, from a facility.  I like that. No need to sugar coat, you aren’t going to tell me anything that I don’t already know.) Letter number two on the other hand. Completely ignores the psychiatric recommendations from the hospital.  It states “the committee has denied placement at “PRTF”.  It goes on to state – there is no difference in treatment from when David was a resident here previously and recommends that we try in

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When is it considered Grand Theft Auto?

What constitutes a vehicle? Does it have to have 4 wheels? Does it need to be highway speed capable? How about a Dixon Zero Turn Riding Mower?  Does that count as a vehicle? My son, “borrowed” the neighbor’s zero turn Dixon mower today.  Claims that someone in that house gave him permission to drive it, complete with attached trailer. Every time we ask him about it, he claims that he was given permission to use it. And then he told another neighbor that we got a new riding mower, that he and I had the only keys, and we were going to share the mower.  Yep.  So now, in addition to the neighbor who had his lawn mower taken, another neighbor is concerned that they could be implicated in the theft of said mower. And he wonders why we don’t trust him. Tweet #fighting4answrs