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Less than 24 hours and a wake up

Less than 24 hours and a wake up from now, barring some intervention, David will be home.

He will come home from a supported environment where he has constant supervision, consistent support, and success in school, to home.

Home where we can’t recreate the level of support he has now.

  If something happens to me or someone in the family, remind the people at the facility and at the state, that I warned them that something would happen.

Where we will live on edge waiting for him to fall apart mentally.

We are appealing the denials, but all of that takes time.  The Developmental Disabilities denial, the supported living staff denial, and general disregard for the welfare of not just the family, but of David.  I am preparing a complaint with the ethics board that governs psychologists because of their unauthorized testing of David.

I don’t understand how a facility that claims to be helping children, can be so emboldened as to deny ongoing care.

David understands that he may go to a therapeutic foster home if we can get one approved.  He also understands that there is a limited chance he will get extended again at the facility.

I have made arrangements for him to be transported to school.  The day school he will attend is 58 miles from home.  Our local district will provide transportation.

At this point, I have done everything I know how to do.  I have spoken with those I can speak with and who will listen.  However, the ones who are in control at this point, are also the ones who have dug their heals in so tightly that they are no longer helping the situation.

I look forward to completing their survey, because honestly,, I can find nothing “trauma informed” about their care of our son.

Please, if you are of a mind to, please pray for David.  Share this post far and wide.

If something happens to me or someone in the family, remind the people at the facility and at the state, that I warned them that something would happen.

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The truth about David.

Roller-CoasterWe visited David tonight.  He wants to come home.  As much as we want him to come home, home isn’t the best place for him.

It isn’t just the Reactive Attachment Disorder.

It isn’t just the Autism.

It isn’t just the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder.

It isn’t just the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

It isn’t just the Oppositional Defiant Disorder, the Childhood Conduct Disorder, the bipolar disorder, or any of the other diagnoses that he has and has had.

It is the combination of all of these things that is what is working against him.

What does this mean for David?

Home isn’t the best place for him.  He never should have been discharged.  The psychiatrist indicated that she sees no change in him now from before he began his first placement.

So Monday.  We are going to start the paperwork.  The process.  The doctor is documenting their end of the record and will provide letters of support for placement.  Not sure when he is coming home from his current stay.  Will discuss that with the doctor on Monday.

As a result, we will be calling a team meeting of all of the people and organizations that are working with and for David’s treatment.

Please, a prayer for David, and our family as we seek whatever help we can get to ensure that David gets everything he needs to be the kind of person that we believe he can be.

The reality of our situation is that there are very few things that we haven’t tried to help him.  What I document here, most days hardly scratches the surface.  Is every day bad?  No.  Even the bad days have their good times.   It means that the roller coaster that is his life is throwing a new loop in his path.  Let’s help him stay on the appropriate path.

he got caught stealing vehicle keys

Got caught in a lie.  He took keys to one of our vehicles to school with him.

Was notified by the school that he had them.

I asked him for them, and he claimed that he didn’t have them.  So I told him he needed to give them to me.

He then went to the pickup, opened the door, made a show of looking for the keys and then saying “here they are, I never took them to school, they have been here all this time.”

Then he said that so and so from the school was lying.

I refused to get into an argument with him.  So I took away bicycle privileges and told him he could go outside to shoot hoops…

He didn’t like that the idea that one minute I was taking privileges and then I was giving them back.  Called me all kinds of names.

I simply said, “ok, sit down.”  He sat.  Got obstinate about it.  Said we might as well take all of his privileges forever.

I simply said absolutely nothing.

He calmed down, so I sent him outside to shoot hoops.

I may be a lot of things, but I am not a sadist.  With his severe ADHD he would drive us both mad inside of a half hour with nothing to do…

All in all, I got the keys back, getting an admission of guilt won’t happen without a fight, and quite frankly the truck he had keys for is a dead vehicle anyway.  Still, if they had been to one of the other vehicles….

For the record, David has a history of stealing keys, so we will have to ensure that we are diligent with key control so that they don’t start disappearing.