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David is conning them.

Bamboozler.David is coming home today.

Yesterday he shared that he was thinking about killing himself.

Today he denied telling me that.

Today he is coming home.

I expressed my frustration as kindly as I could to the social worker.

She claims to understand.  But does she?

Does she understand what it is to fear becoming a statistic in the news at the hands of a child?  Does she understand that we are afraid?  That we are concerned about the safety of not just mom and I, but the other kids in our home?

She made some recommendations.

We should call the Sheriff any time we don’t feel safe.

We should call Child Protective Services and see if they can help.  (this means giving up custody)

I promised David we would never give up.

She then said that we need to utilize the safe bed before we even consider bringing him back to the hospital.

I explained that safe bed is for behaviors, and that they won’t take him if he is homicidal or suicidal.

So she said that she talked to him about what it means to be in juvenile hall.  He seemed to think that this would be a good idea.

Please pray for us.  That you won’t hear about the family from Garrison ND in the news…

Here is a question…

Why would you discourage a family in mental health crisis situations from utilizing a mental health crisis facility?

 

Are you serious?

roller-coaster

These are the steps that we go through to get admission to the mental health unit for David.

  1. Drive 50 miles one way.
  2. Present to reception desk staff.
  3. Present history and current case to intake ER Nurse.
  4. Wait for 1 – 2 hours.
  5. Present case to ER nurse.
  6. Wait for up to an hour.
  7. Present case to Doctor and intake note taker person.
  8. Wait for labs
  9. Wait for him to pee in a cup.
  10. Explain to lab personnel why they need to use a butterfly needle on my son.
  11. Wait in ER for consult from on-call psychiatrist.
  12. If approval for admission is granted we wait for ambulance for transport to the building where the unit is located.  If denied we go home.
  13. Wait some more.
  14. Follow ambulance to the unit.
  15. Wait for admission Nurse to bring out additional paperwork.
  16. Explain case to admission Nurse.
  17. Write down concerns, thoughts, issues, medications, visitor list, contact info for all visitors, staff and family.
  18. Authorize any over the counter medications that he may need like tylenol.
  19. Read through documentation, pamphlet, sign releases as necessary to allow them to communicate with his primary psychiatrist, social workers, care coordinator, and advocate.
  20. Say good night to David.

I go through this every time, and then they greet him by name.  It can take as few as 3 and as many as 6 hours to get through this process.

That said WHY IN THE HELL WOULD I MAKE THIS SHIT UP?

Visited David tonight

you still matterVisited David today.  He changed his story about my weed eater 3 times.

So now we have a possible location for it.

He got mom so frustrated that she moved away from the table.  Everything is blamed on some one else.

His forging of the check happened because we don’t give him an allowance.  Never mind that he doesn’t do anything to earn an allowance.

His theft of some items is because we don’t give him any money.

Some neighbor game him 50 dollars to purchase a spark plug, and a spark plug tool.   I asked about the remaining funds, and he said that the spark plug cost all of the money to buy.

We also learned of some of the places that are easy to steal from.  So I will be stopping at those stores tomorrow and talking with the owners.

I told David that it is his destiny to control.  He is the one that is responsible for his behaviors, not anyone else.  So then it became my fault because I never let him work on our lawnmowers.  Never let him work on the engines.

Before we left, I asked David if he dreams of hurting us.  He said no, but that he does think about killing himself.

I asked if he talked to staff about that, and he said no, because he was afraid that they would just keep him longer.

So I asked if it would be okay if I talked about it, and he said yes.

So tonight, I ask for prayers that David comes to peace with himself.