Beginning to Transform Our Parenting Style

Transform Parenthood – the beginning In my last post, I shared the beginning stages of how we transform ourselves as parents. I also talk about the impetus behind the transformation. Like I stated in that post, making the decision to transform  your style as a parent is easy. Following thru is something else entirely. Do What is Right, Not What is Easy. Right for David is being the in the community with his peers. Public school. Mainstream classes. It means trust where none existed before. In addition it means that we need to be accepting of the fact that things will happen. It means holding David accountable while basically ignoring the incident for a minimum of 24 hours, though 48 hours is better. On his first day of school in the new district, David asked for an aide to support him. We told the school staff that there was a

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Transforming Parenthood

Transform Parenting Styles – Measures taken to embrace new ideas It’s been forever since we posted about David, and this is a result of our decision to transform how we saw parenthood. Specifically parent hood of David. The decision to transform was easy, actually beginning to transform our parenting styles was much more difficult. This post is about what that looks like for us, for David and for our family. Readers may remember that David came home in January of this year. During the last months of his stay in the care facility, we heard repeatedly that they had cured him. An adjective that we frequently heard was how he is. Beginning in November of last year, mom and I began discussing how we could adapt our parenting to David’s needs.  Because honestly, what is hugely important to mom and I, has no bearing to David and his life. Those

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Houdini Part V. – a Six Year Update

Hard to believe it has been six years since I wrote the Houdini/Ronald McDonald posts. You can find the first in the series here.  By and large I have been living life. In fact, most of the last six years are documented within the pages of this site. There has been a lot of advocacy work. Learning new things, adapting our parenting style to our sons needs. But life does move on. Houdini – aka the birth father In the time that has passed, we have lost the birth father.  He died alone. There was no obituary. There was no funeral. It is a sad end to a life. Every life deserves to be celebrated. He was such a “bad” man that no one in the family even knew he died. He has been gone almost 18 months now, and I realize that I have no feelings one way or

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