Dad, It’s okay to be angry. Just wanted to take a few minutes and tell you something. You are in a place that is not what you are used to. It isn’t your home. It isn’t the life that you remember. The sad thing Dad? Most days, nothing about that day is the life that you remember. Your mind is playing tricks on you. It lets you see what it wants you to see. Your mind lets you forget things that are important to you. Conversations to remember. What I like is the conversations that we share. I’d like to hear about that John Deere Propane, you remember? the one that you put standard tractor tires on… Or Lance. Your favorite horse. About the flooding of the creek near the home place. The one you drove thru where the water was deep enough that you could reach out the window
Some thoughts on becoming Dad to my Dad. On him beginning to cede control of his life to me. Of having to “take” over when he is desperately trying to hold on. Mostly, just some thoughts about our time together as he gets closer to the end of his life.
In the news each day, we see and read about people. People like Adam Lanza, and others who destroyed the lives of many. We never hear about the people who have mental illness yet don’t destroy the lives of others. Why? Sure the state of mental illness, and the treatment of those with mental illness is abysmal in our country, but not all people with mental illness are bad. The things that we think and do not say. In the latter half of the 20th century there was a push to de-institutionalize. By and large this was mostly a success. People deserve to live in the community. Everyone deserves that chance. However. Have we gone too far the other way? I know, some of my readers will rake me over the coals with this question. But it needs to be asked. When families have no options for treatment and care