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The reality

The reality. Until David actually hits me with that shovel, there isn’t a whole lot that we can do for him. For the family. I have to know that I can defend my family from him. A number of different psychiatrists at a number of different facilities, have stated that he needs long term care. In talking with the court, until he commits a very serious crime there is no real hope of getting him into a detention center. And given his behaviors and mental health, he would likely get an education that we really don’t want him to get. So where does that leave us? at home, waiting for a serious crime? in a facility, waiting for Ascend Management Innovations to deny the Certificate of Need that is required for him to be in the facility? I don’t honestly know. It’s frustrating, but I can’t see the future. I

Failure is an option.

Thinking back to the past couple of months with our son, there have been significant times when I have felt like a failure as a father. You know what? That is okay. Here is why. This, let’s call him our invention, is a human being. A thinking, walking, talking embodiment of all that is wrong with the “drug culture” in our world. Nothing will ever take that part of him away. Even if he wasn’t a product of that culture via his birth mom’s need for a high, he would still be a thinking, walking, talking individual with a brain and a voice. Do you follow me? Unlike Edison’s Invention Factory, this invention can’t be taken back to the drawing board for a redesign. So. Why don’t we accept that some aspect of parenting didn’t work as intended for what ever reason, call it the failure that it was, learn

visited my son tonight

I went to see my son tonight. He wants to know when he can come home from the hospital. Nothing about the other night. When I asked him why he wants to come home, it was all about missing the trip to Bismarck with his mentor that he does once a week. Nothing about the family. No regrets about his behaviors. Just “when can I come home?” I told him that when he starts being honest with himself and the staff there about what is going on, then I would think about it. This afternoon I attended the “Informal Adjustment Conference” to let them know where David is. Talked to the guy for about half an hour about what we have been dealing with. Last night, the psychiatrist recommended placing David in a detention center until the bed is available. Today, I relayed that request to the gentleman at the