Author Archives: David's Father

Frustrated with the Naysayers

I write today, not because I am frustrated with my son.  He isn’t home from school as of yet, and by all accounts he is having a decent day.  In his world, I can never ask for more than that. I am writing because of the naysayers. You know who you are. It isn’t just the local ones saying stuff. Some are kind enough to say things directly to me, others are more catty.  They don’t think that things can get back to people.  I am not here to please any of you.  I am here to raise awareness about mental illness, adoption and family support. I am doing the best I can with the situation that my family is in.  Is it less than ideal?  Heck yes.  Is there anything that I can do about it that I am not already doing?  Hell no!  I am doing everything in

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the value in flaws of the mind

I talk regularly about David’s mental health.  Flaws isn’t a good word for the way he is, or why he is the way he is. Even though most days I am flummoxed by what to do with his behaviors, his mind has value. Every mind has value.  Why? With David, it is the simple things.  When he wants to be helpful, regardless of the reason, you can’t find a better helper.  If one of the pets is upset, he calms them down.  He can calm pets for other people, especially cats, including one that is especially standoffish to anyone except her owner.  He has a wicked sense of humor.  He can hear conversations from 30 feet away, even if they don’t concern him. He is a voracious reader.  A technology wizard. Every mind has value, there is a purpose for everything that is in the world.  Sometimes we wonder at

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Update: Some interesting things to note

To the people he rides to and from school with every day. David is not allowed technology.  He is not allowed technology because he has threatened to kill people via said technology.  When you hand him your phone, ipod, technology, you are opening yourself up to problems with law enforcement because of the risk that he poses. He is not allowed on YouTube, he is not allowed access to facebook.  It would be much easier for you if you just don’t let him use your technology than it would be for me to list all of the things he is not allowed to do on technology. The other issue.  If you feed David, what are you expecting in return?   He looks up to you. Please respect the boundaries we have established for our son.  To you it is just a piece of pizza.  David sees it as much more. Update:

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