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bingo, we have a winner – update from the hospital

Well yesterday, we took our youngest to the hospital and admitted him to the psych unit.  

Today I got a call from the doctor in the ward.  He asked me why we had not been giving David his medicines.

When I explained that we had been giving them to him four times a day, and watching him take them, the doctor began to see things a little more clearly.  Evidently David has not been swallowing his medicine. The blood work doesn’t show any rittalin or zyprexa in his blood which means he hasn’t swallowed any for at least three days.

So now we are going to get him back on his medicines, and work on getting some compliance issues taken care of that will ensure that he takes his medicine like he is supposed to.

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how do you do it each day?

Each day moves forward without prompting.

We start when the rest of the kids leave the house.

  1.  8am – four kids off to school.
  2. 8:30 breakfast and clean up
  3. 9:00 play time
  4. 9:30 exercise period
  5. 10:00 study math
  6. 10:30 break
  7. 11:00 spelling lessons
  8. 11:30 – 1 lunch
  9. 1pm grammar and reading.
  10. 1:30pm. done for the day

For exercise we use games on the Wii. When it gets warmer, we will go outside. We also have an exercise bike.
Three times a week, we try to have an outing of some kind.  Go to the store, a cafe, bank or whatever.

Our day varies depending on his temperament and how he is responding.  Because of the severity of the ADHD, the above schedule is very flexible.  Some days we might not get started until 11am and might get done at 1.  We work when he is able to focus and function.

I try to combine some history stuff in the reading when it is available, or turn on the History Channel during his free time.  Last week we watched a show about the bottom of the ocean and how things survive.  So far this is working for him.  It is still our hope that he gets to go to public school.  We would modify his day to a level that is appropriate.  There are just some things, like social skills, that can’t be learned one on one.  A lot of the learning takes place via the computer and a number of educational websites.  This is especially true for multiplication tables and spelling lessons.

But how do you get through the day?  Will.  Each day is unique, celebrate the successes leave the failures for another time.  Even in the failures, one can find success.  We document as much as we can both positive and negative.   This is then shared with the medical and psych team.  Above all, we remember that he isn’t this way because he necessarily wants to be this way.  He is this way because of what his birth mother did.

Last week, David, in a moment of apparent clarity asked me why we kept him, and adopted him into our family.

My answer was, “you complete our family, and we loved you.  we still love you, we may not always like what you do, but we still love you.”

 

Our School District made the news!!! Updated

Update February 12, 2012

An update.  In chatting with news people, it was explained to me how the story is reported.  Since the report from the Sheriff Department reported it as an accident, the news people felt that there really wasn’t a lot else to report. I can see where they would say that.  And I agree with that.  Since it is an accident, there was no real reason to think that our district was being inaccurate in their portrayal of bullying in our district as being something that happens 3 or 4 times a year.

I appreciate the news person for helping me understand how they work.  I applaud them for their efforts at fair and accurate reporting.

Thank you:

Why Not Fathers

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February 10,2012

Our school district made the news.

http://www.kxnet.com/story/16909355/garrison-school-incident

So I wrote this response to the reporter.  I stripped out some info like names…

Good Evening Ms. Gustin,

I am the father of the child who was injured last week and I feel the
need to clarify a few things in regards to your piece on the news this
evening.

The child in question is not in junior high school, she is a sophmore
in high school.  She suffered a concussion and a contusion to the base
of her skull.  At the time of the incident we had no idea what
happened.  Given the history of bullying toward my daughter, we called
the Mclean County Sheriff Department and reported the incident.  As a
result, a report was filed, and an investigation was completed.

The school offered to let me view the video, but I declined, as I
wanted the investigation to be completed by a third party, and not
influenced by me.

My daughter suffers now from headaches, bright lights give her a head
ache, as do loud noises.

During the course of the investigation the school conducted I asked
for updates.  At first I was told that they had two witnesses, then I
was told that they had one witness.  Then I was told that they didn’t have
any witnesses.  I was also told that the video didn’t show anything
happening to my daughter.  The high school principal told me that the
video shows her sitting in the hallway.

The school tried to blame me for what happened to her, they said that
I wouldn’t let them investigate our daughter’s allegations against
students in December 2011.  In fact what I told the school is that
they couldn’t question my daughter without either my wife or I being
present.  We also heard that the district tried to insinuate in a
staff meeting that she hit herself in the back of the head to get
attention.

In the end, it was determined that there were two boys who were rough
housing in the hallway.  One pushed his buddy and he was pushed into
my daughter who then hit her on the locker.  The deputy talked to me
and asked if I was comfortable with calling it an accident.  After
considering what he told me, I agreed, with the caveat that the boys
in question apologize to my daughter.  Which my daughter has told me
occurred this week.

I like that the news was reported.  I just wanted to make sure that
you had all of the information about the incident.  All is not as rosy
as Mr Brannan would have you believe.  In this district there exists
an atmosphere of bullying.  Student on Student, Administration on
Student, Parent to Administration, and Administration to faculty and
staff.  I should also include that administration bullies some
parents.  Students are allowed to intimidate staff, and no
consequences are given.

We have friends who work for the school district who have been told
that maintaining friendships with me and my family is detrimental to
their careers.

This is North Dakota, not communist Russia at the height of the Cold War.

I welcome your questions.

Thank you

 

Last week I was asked if a reporter could contact me.  None ever did. I just think that the story needs to be reported accurately.

 

http://www.kxnet.com/story/16909355/garrison-school-inciden