carl, Author at Fighting for Answers

It’s okay to be angry.

Dad, It’s okay to be angry. Just wanted to take a few minutes and tell you something. You are in a place that is not what you are used to. It isn’t your home. It isn’t the life that you remember. The sad thing Dad? Most days, nothing about that day is the life that you remember. Your mind is playing tricks on you. It lets you see what it wants you to see. Your mind lets you forget things that are important to you. Conversations to remember. What I like is the conversations that we share. I’d like to hear about that John Deere Propane, you remember? the one that you put standard tractor tires on… Or Lance. Your favorite horse. About the flooding of the creek near the home place. The one you drove thru where the water was deep enough that you could reach out the window

Two Weeks Post Discharge

Good day my friends. We are two weeks post discharge and I thought that I would post an update about how things are going. In a word. Stable. He is stable. No better, no worse. The difference is that we are actively monitoring his medications, whereas before, he was managing his own medications for most of a year, and doing so successfully. He claims to not remember most of the night when the crisis occurred. I don’t know if this is true or not and really, it doesn’t matter. Current state. We still have issues with lies. We still have issues with hoarding food in the bedroom. We still have issues with him thinking that his bedroom is a garbage dump. (although he is a teenager and I am told this is normal) We have locks on everything. Food pantry. Fridge. Laundry room. Main bathroom. Bedrooms. Deep freeze. It is

The adoption misconception

I am adopted. I have PTSD and depression. These have nothing to do with the fact that I am adopted. My son has a mental illness. Even if he had never been adopted, he would still have a mental illness. Take Autism. Adoption doesn’t cause Autism. I don’t believe that is even a remote possibility. While the exact cause of Autism is unclear, I am certain that it isn’t adoption. Not every child that is adopted has Autism and not everyone that has Autism is adopted. Take Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder are a broad category of diagnosis, much like the world of Autism. There are varying levels of the disorder. Unless I was the birth mom and drank during my pregnancy, our adopting him two years after he was born didn’t cause the FASD. There are people born with FASD whose moms had no idea they