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Scheduled IEP meeting

So it seems that David’s current teacher has some concerns about him transitioning to another school.  She wants to have an IEP before he moves and starts school out there.

David adores his teacher.  If she asks him to do something, he does it.  Sure he occasionally acts up, but, nothing like last year where we couldn’t keep him in the school.

I hate the idea of changing so many things in his life.  Moving will be bad enough, but leaving a good teacher behind, might make things worse.

Time will tell.

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A tragedy in North Carolina

A tragedy in North Carolina.  Police shoot and kill an 18 year old man, identified as 5 foot 3 inches tall and weighing 100 pounds. His mother, Mary Wilsey stated vehemently, “This is not how mental health patients should be treated”.

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Our son David has mental illness.  He is 83 pounds of lean muscle.  When he is in a manic state, it take three or four people to restrain him, so that he doesn’t hurt either himself or anyone else.

Is it necessary for police officers to use deadly force?  In this instance, evidently the officer felt it was justified.  Even after the man was tasered, and being restrained by two other officers.  I don’t have access to all of the facts.  The people who do, who were present, who have the facts, well let’s hope that the truth comes out.  A tragedy all the way around, no matter how you look at it.

I pray that nothing like this happens to my son.  To my family.  No one deserves that.  I agree entirely with what Mrs Wilsey stated.  “This is not how mental health patients should be treated.”

What then is the appropriate treatment?  If my son is out of control, and I need to call 911 for help, the last thing I would expect is for them to shoot my child.

 

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Frustrating visit. Attitude.

214738908_80_80Prior to today’s visit, we had two weekend family visits left at David’s current facility. So we extended the visit by an hour.   Soon, he will be 500 miles away, making it impossible to visit him weekly.

The visit started out rocky with David not listening.  But he settled down.

Then an hour before the visit was to end, David started antagonizing his sister.  Pushing until she got upset.  So mom and I sat David down, we explained to him that our weekly visits were coming to an end because of the move to the new facility.

He got mouthy.  Said that he was told that it wasn’t happening for a while.

So we explained to him that it was happening in 12 days.  Denial set in.

So we packed up and ended the visit early.

Denial isn’t really the right word for it.  He just didn’t care.   We explained that his behaviors are the determining factor in both our visits, and his pending return home.  I can handle mouthy.  But when it gets so negative that it upsets the rest of the family, then we decide to end the visit early.

Back at the residence hall, I explained to staff about his behavior.  Evidently he has been acting up in the residence hall as well.

One the way home, his siblings asked if they could skip the next visit.

Next week, one of his aunts is going to visit.  We have instructed the staff that they are not to leave campus.  David has the ability to manipulate people.  Won’t let that happen if I can reasonably prevent it.  Besides, there are facilities on campus that are available for family visits.

 

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