We choose this life. David is our son. We adopted him when he was 2. Would I do it again knowing what I know now about his “special needs”? Yes. Why? Because every child deserves a family. Deserves a home. I am adopted. Would I ask my parents if they would redo the experience? Tweet #fighting4answrs
We don’t need you to second guess our decisions about our sons care. We know his conditions better than just about anyone, including his medical team. Until you have lived in our home with him, experienced his violent temper, and manic behaviors, you can’t tell us that we are wrong to embark on the path that we are traveling. Do I wish things were different? Hell yes! No amount of wishing will make it so. We don’t need you to second guess our decision. We can do that on our own. Want to know what you can do to help? Talk to people in the mental health community. Offer to help them with a meal. Offer to run errands for them, or spend time visiting so that they can feel like humanity hasn’t disappeared. Offer to take their kids that don’t have mental illnesses or special needs out for a
I don’t normally make resolutions, but thought I would document some of my thoughts on what the new year might bring. Explore all possibilities for returning our son to his home state. Explore ways to limit the pain my family is going through while dealing with mental illness of our son. Advocate for the other “Meth Babies” and kids like David who need services in our state, and to not be shipped off to other locations. I won’t hold grudges against those who won’t help kids like David. I will educate them on the error of their ways. I will be a stronger parent to my kids. They have a say in our family as well, what affects David, also affects them. I will work on completing my book about parenting a child with reactive attachment disorder so that others may benefit from reading about our experiences. I will remember