Author Archives: carl

Cleft Palette, Sensory and Anxiety disorders

My son has a cleft palette.  He also has sensory issues and we suspect anxiety issues. He misses school frequently for all of these issues. He currently has a sinus infection.  Anyone who has a cleft palette knows the issues that affect the sinus cavity.  He has a 504 on file with eh school regarding his cleft palette.  He also has one for his sensory issues and the anxiety.  His IEP states “other health impaired”. I wonder if the school understands just what all this means? I am frustrated.  While other parents can get the school to bend to their will, we are stuck fighting for basic things. Tweet #fighting4answrs

discipline and language

So my 13 year old Aspie, got detention today for using the word Hell in his English class.  Let me start at the beginning.  My son received detention today.  I asked him about it and he said that it was because he said “hell.”  I sent am email to the principal asking about it.  He had no idea. So my son’s English teacher gave him detention for saying a word that she found offensive. My son is highly intelligent and speaks his mind with little difficulty.  Like most people on the spectrum, he has issues filtering and knowing what is appropriate in social situations. Oh yeah, and I received a note from the superintendent that he smells bad.  He is 13, he has PE first hour.  He uses deodorant, I wonder if they could arrange for him to come home right after gym and take a shower so that he

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asking for help – Overcoming Fear

I am in a class right now on Leadership Development. The facilitator said the most profound thing.  Overcoming fear to ask for help is the biggest obstacle in leadership development that you will ever surmount.  No one is an expert in all things. The key is to know when the moment arrives that it is time to unlock the door/chain that binds you to trying to go it alone. Leadership is community development in a way that encompasses the skills you need to be successful in whatever you do. As a father, when I ask for help in getting services for my son’s, I am developing a community and being a leader.  I am doing the job given to me by my child and their trust that I will do the job to the best of my ability. So, why are dad’s uncomfortable in asking for help?  If we were

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