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sneaky little bugger

Just caught David trying to sneak out of his bed.  he turns over on his belly, wiggles his body over the end of the bed, and then slides on his belly across the floor one painstaking inch at a time.  I have a feeling that it is going to be a long night.

About an hour ago, we caught him with his brother’s phone for the third time today.  Not sure how he manages that trick yet. Since we moved his brother upstairs, behind a locked door.

So do I install video cameras? or wait until he goes into the residential facility and just let it go?

 

 

Remember Chunk from the Goonies?

The Goonies

The Goonies (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Remember that scene in the Goonies where the Fratellis were questioning Chunk by threatening to put his hand in the blender?  And he starts talking…

Everything. OK! I’ll talk! In third grade, I cheated on my history exam. In fourth grade, I stole my uncle Max’s toupee and I glued it on my face when I was Moses in my Hebrew School play. In fifth grade, I knocked my sister Edie down the stairs and I blamed it on the dog… When my mom sent me to the summer camp for fat kids and then they served lunch I got nuts and I pigged out and they kicked me out… But the worst thing I ever done – I mixed a pot of fake puke at home and then I went to this movie theater, hid the puke in my jacket, climbed up to the balcony and then, t-t-then, I made a noise like this: hua-hua-hua-huaaaaaaa – and then I dumped it over the side, all over the people in the audience. And then, this was horrible, all the people started getting sick and throwing up all over each other. I never felt so bad in my entire life.

This is something like that.

David, rather then fess up to something blamed it on the dog.  Why?

We can see through his lies.  He knows we can see through his lies.  He would rather get in trouble for scaring the hell out of the dog, thereby making the dog urinate on the sofa bed, than he would admit that he had an accident during the night and overfilled his pullup.  Why?

We know that when he allows himself to keep the medicines in his body, he sleeps so fully that nothing would wake him, not even a bladder full, or we clothes.  It is a fact of life in our house.  Deal with it and move on.  All of a sudden he is bothered about it.

 

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Feel Guilty? No!

Attention grabber isn’t it?

As a stay at home dad of five kids, or which three have a special need of some kind, I am at the forefront of all activities in our home.  As it should be.  With our youngest son David and his increasing need for near constant attention, the pace is increasing.  He requires more and more energy to keep up with him.

As an individual with more than one chronic illness, my health is finite.  The last two months have definitely put a stress on my health.

Denver Capital building

Denver Capital building (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This week, I left home on Wednesday for two days in Denver doing a Title V Block Grant Review.  More about that can be found here.

Even though it has only been two days, I can say unequivocally that my body hurts less today than it did two days ago.  I like to blame the altitude.  I remember in July when I was in Billings, MT for a 5 day period with my daughter, I felt really good.

So, is it the altitude, or is it the fact that I can relax and not need to keep constantly on-guard for David and his behaviors?  Because even when sleeping, one can never fully let down their guard.

So if I feel better simply because I don’t have to be on guard 24/7 with David, should I feel guilty that I am here and he is at home with my wife, his aunt as well as the brothers and sisters?

No.  I don’t think so.  I refuse to feel guilty about it.  I didn’t do much except get a hair cut, watch television and sleep.  But how relaxing it was to do those things.

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