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facebook and my pre-teen

Well, my pre-teen has signed up for a facebook account again. What to do… ? Well, we did a couple of things. reset the password add a second email to the account. (whenever he tries to change the password, I get notified.) the only way he gets to use the account is if an adult is with him. break the rules, no computer. He has created accounts in the past, really it isn’t that hard to convince facebook that you are old enough to have an account. We have deactivated his accounts in the past. Why are we giving in this time? Pick your battles. In the month since he has been home from the residential facility, he has done very well. Our rules for facebook: No pictures outside of the ones that mom and dad have approved. no negative posts. no cussing. all friends have to be approved by

Medications, bane or beneficial?

Medication to control ADHD, bipolar disorder and other mental illnesses can be both a benefit and a bane to the children who take them. Our son, born addicted to illicit drugs, has had zero chance to function without medications modifying his affect. What does this mean? Simply put, without medications, he has little hope of being a functional member of society. Even with medications, his chances are at best fifty percent. Without meds, there is no self-control. He has a difficult time sitting still for more than a couple of minutes with his meds, without them, there is no sitting still. He sleeps three to four hours a night without his meds, sometimes less. With his meds, he averages about 6 though they are restless hours. On some occasions, usually every couple of weeks he can go two to two and a half days without sleep. We have no idea

my kingdom for toothpicks to prop my eyelids open

My youngest has been up since 4am. He has days like these. I don’t know if it is just me being tired or what, but it seems like he is pushing a lit of buttons today. Not just mine, but all of the people in the house. So what recommendations do you have to keep a 10 year old in bed, or from waking up the rest of the house when he gets up at that hour? the rule is that he is supposed to wake me. Twice now, he has used the excuse that he didn’t know where I was sleeping, so he woke up his brother instead. So now his brother is going to wake me up. very frustrating. But, it isn’t something that he has a lot of control over either. maybe I can get my wife to let me take a nap when she is done