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Cold and Calculating

It was something a family member said that triggered this post. “The other day, when David volunteered to do the dishes, why did he do that? He has never done that before.” they said. And it’s true. Thinking back, David never volunteers for anything but lawn mowing. Which I think is only the case because he wants to start a “lawn mowing service”. Which would give him access to other people’s property. Scary thought. On Friday, he volunteered to do dishes. Out of the blue. 14 hours later he was in handcuffs. We may be seeing things that aren’t there, but if your child suddenly starts to exhibit behavior that isn’t the usual behavior for them, you should question the motive or cause of said behavior. By generating goodwill with his parents, David opened up a brief opportunity to take advantage of a situation. He used it to sneak into

I saw my son in handcuffs today.

I saw my son, David, in handcuffs today. This is the first time. Fourteen years old. It is heart wrenching to see your child in this position, for some reason I don’t think that this is the last time he will be in this spot. We are trying to break through to him that his actions have consequences. When you steal something, you get in trouble. When you destroy the property of another, even if it belongs to a family member, there are consequences. Today, I saw my nightmares come true. No parent wants to see their child in handcuffs. Will the actions that we took today make a change on his outlook? Sadly, I don’t think so. When the Deputy Sheriff was here, David had huge tears rolling down his face. After he left? Back to the same old David. Based on the recommendation of the deputy, we put

A letter to a parent in Georgia

I imagine that right now you are feeling a little anxious. Maybe you aren’t feeling anything at all. I don’t know your situation, but chances are that if you are reading the things that I write, you have some experience with what I write about. Maybe not at the depths that we are dealing with, and maybe at a much deeper level than what we are dealing with. At any rate, it is my hope that you know that you are not alone in your struggles. Never have I claimed to know everything about every situation, and most of the time, I fly by the seat of my pants when dealing with David, however no matter how difficult his behaviors are, no matter how scared I am, we have never, and I mean never locked him in a cage. Now I don’t know the situation that you are dealing with,