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battles

In life, we all have battles that we fight. How do we choose which battles to fight? Do we just fight them all as they come to us? Or is it better to analyze each situation as it arises? In David’s life, we have tried to not fight every battle that comes up. We have tried to be diplomatic in as many of our battles with the system that is designed to either educate him, or treat his mental illnesses. Through this, there has been one common theme. How will this battle impact David’s life? His education? Long term, will this have an impact? What will this mean for David’s mental health? What will this mean for David’s education? Which of his life goals will this affect? Am I fighting this battle because I need to win or because it is in the best interest of David? In the end,

Medicaid, Medicaid, Medicaid, you frustrate me so….

David is adopted. He was a special needs adoption. Not because of all of the mental health concerns, but because of his race. As part of the adoption, he was court ordered to have access to Medicaid. It seems like every time we turn around, we are fighting for David. For things that David needs. Today I received a telephone call regarding his Medicaid. Evidently because his treatment center is in another state, and because he is a subsidized adoption, we have to apply for Medicaid in the state where the treatment center is. Why does it seem like every week there is a new road block to surmount? Today, I was informed that our county will be closing David’s Medicaid, effective the end of the month and that I need to apply for Medicaid in the other state. Even though we don’t live there. Even though this isn’t a

ah… David, David, David….

David is a pretty smart kid. At least when he wants to be. Let me give you an example. Attachment. Now the average person wouldn’t use that word in their everyday language. David heard the term once, and immediately it became part of his lexicon. He used it regularly during the conversation. He doesn’t know why he doesn’t form attachments to people, or why he attacks those who love him most. He just knows that since we used the word attachment today, that it is important, and he needs to use that word. I have noted this in the past when talking with David. If we talk about privileges, he will use the word during the rest of the conversation. If we talk about attitude, he will use that word. Is it just a coincidence? It could very well be. I don’t think so. For example. today we talked about