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nights like this

I have to wonder… “Is this behavior that of a 13 year old boy, or his mental health?” See our other two boys didn’t give us all the sass, back talk, attitude and behaviors. Or maybe I just don’t remember the behaviors because we were so busy dealing with David’s issues. Not sure if that is a blessing or not. How can we turn bedtime into a struggle for right and wrong? He claims to be funny, I think that he needs a visit with a bar of soap. Alas, I bite my tongue. If I raise my voice at all from a normal conversational tone, then he calls me out for yelling at him. So I raise my voice a little louder in self-defense. If I call him on his behaviors, he asks if he can pack a bag to save time tomorrow when I take him back to

Let me tell you the real story….

David has been home a month. For the most part things have gone well. Recently there has been an increase in the number of lies. Lies about petty things that don’t need to be lied about. When confronted about lies, he says “you never believe me…” This gradually changes to “Let me tell you the real story…” One of the biggest things he lies about is food. All he has to do is ask. Instead, he steals it, hides it under the furniture. Then denies having any knowledge of how it got there. He doesn’t seem to connect the idea that for the 2 and a half years that he was in a facility, this NEVER happened. On Friday was the clincher. In Social Studies class on Friday, they watched a video titled “Planet Earth”. David asked to speak privately with the teacher and said “Can I not watch this

Traditional vs. Non-Traditional Families

Last week, someone asked me if I was David’s grandfather. This in itself isn’t a bad thing. In the past when people have questioned David’s parentage, I have simply said that he is adopted. Which is true. What is wrong with the idea that a white person would have an African-American son? Or even the other way, what is wrong with the idea that an African-American would have a white son? What business is it of theirs? I could see being concerned if the child was in distress, showed signs or behaviors of abuse. But you won’t see that with my son. Recently, a friend was asked how much her son cost. “How much did he cost?” I am perplexed. I have no idea what the cost of birth is, but what business is it of another person? I could see if the interest involved their wanting to adopt a