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I am adopted. I have PTSD and depression. These have nothing to do with the fact that I am adopted. My son has a mental illness. Even if he had never been adopted, he would still have a mental illness. Take Autism. Adoption doesn’t cause Autism. I don’t believe that is even a remote possibility. While the exact cause of Autism is unclear, I am certain that it isn’t adoption. Not every child that is adopted has Autism and not everyone that has Autism is adopted. Take Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder are a broad category of diagnosis, much like the world of Autism. There are varying levels of the disorder. Unless I was the birth mom and drank during my pregnancy, our adopting him two years after he was born didn’t cause the FASD. There are people born with FASD whose moms had no idea they

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For those who have chosen to smash our hearts because of the last post. I tell you this. It’s not that we don’t love him, because we do. A family doesn’t put as much fight into getting appropriate mental health care for their loved ones without caring. without love. We have taken him into our hearts for life or longer, but I can’t help him if he kills me. Mom can’t help him if he kills her. Does that make sense? So I guess what it comes down to, is, unless you want to walk in our shoes for a month or two, and experience the life we have experienced with his mental health, I’d like to ask you to sit down and hush. Since I wrote that post, I have received literally 100’s of positive feedback. The recommendations, well, most of them we have already tried, but people have

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If I am killed in my sleep, know that I tried to keep people safe. Our son has severe mental illness, and we are fearful for our lives. He currently is set for discharge this coming week. He told law enforcement that he would get a knife from the kitchen and hurt us in our sleep. If we are killed in our sleep, know that we only wanted the best for our kids. For all of our kids. If something happens to us, lay blame at the root of the problem. Sure our killer should be held accountable, but lay the blame on the broken system of mental health care that exists in the state of North Dakota. Blame If we are killed in our sleep, lay the blame on the lack of compassion in a system that is confused about its purpose. A system that is limited in its

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