For those who have chosen to smash our hearts because of the last post. I tell you this.
It’s not that we don’t love him, because we do. A family doesn’t put as much fight into getting appropriate mental health care for their loved ones without caring. without love.
We have taken him into our hearts for life or longer, but I can’t help him if he kills me. Mom can’t help him if he kills her.
Does that make sense?
So I guess what it comes down to, is, unless you want to walk in our shoes for a month or two, and experience the life we have experienced with his mental health, I’d like to ask you to sit down and hush.
Since I wrote that post, I have received literally 100’s of positive feedback.
The recommendations, well, most of them we have already tried, but people have their hearts in the right place.
In most states, families have little say in discharge planning for mental health. We can’t refuse to pick him up without going to jail or worse, placing employment at risk.
With proper care, he can live in the community. He has shown that.
But to just discharge him without having any conversations with the family about what happened to put him in his current situation is absurd and in my mind extremely negligent on the part of the facility.
