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About that quilt…

“About that quilt.” I know, the title is rather cryptic.  It is not at all descriptive. And that’s okay.  Last Spring, I wrote about the unfinished quilt. Remember? I wrote about how in a situation like ours, we were constantly removing pieces of the quilt and trying different things in their place. Since we moved last summer, we have made incredible changes.  Our family dynamic has changed.  We owe this simply to the move into the city from our small community.  Jobs changed.  Stress levels are reduced. We now have four kids in college. So what is different? Simply put – Everything.  This time when David is discharged, he will be coming home to a new house he has never lived in.  He will be starting a new school.  He will have access to activities that weren’t available in our small town.  He should have access to a greater range

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End of Year Update

End of year update. – Things are still moving forward here. There are quite a few things that I won’t write about that have happened, but here is an update. In early December we asked to be referred to the Developmental Disabilities (DD) division.  In the midst of that, we spent a lot of time faxing back and forth different releases to ensure we had all of David’s most recent testing from Psychologists and Psychiatrists.  We met with some resistance, but in the end, we met with a DD eligibility worker. Shortly before Christmas, we met with her again and formally applied for services. Forty-eight hours later, he was approved for Case Management and a statewide referral was sent out for care, either group home or what.  A DD Program Manager was assigned. In the middle of all of this, my health has taken a beating.  With the support of

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Anxiety high, as we near discharge for David

Anxiety In a little more than a month, David will return from his fifth placement in six years.  As a result, we are on edge.  Anxiety in people who are already in a heightened state of upset is not good.  We are told that things will be different this time. By the admissions of the staff where he is, David needs constant redirects. Last Spring, a psychologist associated with the agency diagnosed David with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder.  This is in addition to the Reactive Attachment, Severe Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and Conduct Disorder that he already had. The Specialist So I arranged to see a specialist in August so we could get specific recommendations regarding future care planning for David. Don’t live in the past We aren’t supposed to live in the past where David tried to kill me.  Where David stole from everyone in the

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