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Race Conversations

The Race Conversation This isn’t a Black Lives Matter post, yet it is. Does that make sense? Today, we had a meeting with David at his school because he got caught hacking the school network and surfing pornography during class time. His punishment is loss of technology privileges for the rest of the semester. In addition he has two days of in school suspension. The suspension has to be successful without redirects from the school principal. He will have redirects from the teacher, this is a given, but if the principal gets involved, then his day in suspension won’t count. Make sense? I have no issues with that. All of this is merely the setup for the conversation I had to have with him. The Conversation David wasn’t expecting to see me today. I happened to be in the city near his facility and school, so stopped to see him

some lessons need to be learned…

Some lessons need to be learned the hard way I guess. At breakfast David was in his usual mood. I always get irritated when the he puts an empty cereal container back in the cupboard. I told him that it bugs me. “But dad, there is cereal still in there!” he said. So I shook the container. There was cereal alright. Four or five pieces. “That reminds me, another boy bought me a sausage and egg sandwich yesterday morning for breakfast. I’ll have to eat that on the way to school.” David stated. I replied, “no, that is not a good idea, and you will get sick.” David argues, “But dad, it was still wrapped.” So mom and I both explained about food poisoning. I don’t think he listened. As I signed his daily report card, with him watching, we again extolled the concept that food, wrapped or not, that

Can a marriage survive a special needs child?

How about a family that has more than one child with special needs? While I can’t speak for every family, I would say that a marriage can survive, but… always a but.. There has to be communication. What follows is my 10 point list for marriage with special needs kids in the family. Communication Private time. Date time. Family time. Understand the needs of the family. Understand the needs of the spouse or significant other. Apologize when necessary. Love Laugh often Personal time. Communication No marriage can survive without communication. Communicate, communicate, Communicate. Oh yeah, did I say Communicate? Good morning, Good evening, hello, are the beginnings, but if that is all that your communication entails, you need to step it up a notch. Communication with your spouse can be as simple as a caress. A hug. A smile. Communication isn’t just about talking, though that is important too. Communication