I feel like we are playing with fire here. Admittedly, David also likes to play with fire. David admitted to that too. We had blamed another child for the small fires. David claims that it was him that did the deed. We have not had any of the fires during any of the periods when David has been in facility based care. What methods can we employ do we deal with that? Sure we can keep all matches, lighters, knives, candles, and other things that could be used to hurt the family, but at what point does it become too much? In what reality is it fair for everyone in the house to live in an environment like this? Why should the other kids feel like they too are being punished for David’s deeds? Safety and Security Sure we can fill the house with fire extinguishers, we have smoke detectors
It has come to our attention that David has admitted to trying to kill animals with his hands, and with chemicals. I don’t fault David for admitting the horror that he has tried. I don’t fault him for it, it is a symptom of his mental illnesses. Last year he attacked me more than once and tried to crash our vehicle when we were doing a transport of him to the mental health unit at the hospital. Given that he has admitted these things, and our family has experienced the things that we have from him, why would I just bring him home? He is my son. And I love him. But. But he is not the only person to take into consideration. Would it not be considered neglect or abuse to subject the rest of the family to a threat of harm from David? He has shown the propensity
What do you do when you need to balance the mental illness of one child against the wellness of a whole family? Do you allow the mentally ill and potentially very violent child to return home? Or do you push for another residential placement?