I title this post “Destroying Success” for a simple fact. David has been in facility based care before. He has been discharged from such a care to home three times out of the 5 placements he has had. Each time home has resulted in behaviors so volatile that he experiences frequent trips to the mental health unit at the hospital in the city, frequent visits by law enforcement and many trips to safe bed. By volatile, I mean violent aggressive behaviors, not to mention stealing, forging and other activities like trying to kill pets. So he transitioned to his current placement in late June of this year. He is successful. He is always successful in placement. Sure he has rough periods, but what teen doesn’t? Heck, I would wonder what was wrong if he didn’t have rough periods. So why would you destroy the safe world that he is in
Ever have the distinct realization that the words coming from your child’s mouth aren’t really his? That you are hearing the parroted version of what others have said? Much like listening to a parrot. Not that he has multiple personalities or anything. We had a meeting today, and while we heard from David, it felt forced. Like he was saying what needed to be said, and not what was actually on his mind. Follow me? He used lots of “feeling” words, and that isn’t him. He didn’t magically grow empathy. The brain doesn’t work like that. Leopards Spots I love my son. But. Don’t try to change the leopards spots. All it does is piss off the cat. There is a reality that we live in. As much as we would love to have our son back, it can’t happen without safety. It can’t happen without him taking ownership of
It costs nearly a quarter of a million dollars annually to keep David in facility care… one barrier to bringing David home is a lack of community support. What would happen if we used the fee paid to the facility to cover staff in the home?