So a few weeks ago I wrote about our struggle to get medication management for David’s psych medications. Today we did intake at Sanford Behavioral Health Bismarck. Medication success! and Medication disappointment. See, they are taking him on as a patient, but since we missed his appointment in May, he can’t be scheduled to see someone to manage his medications, and prescribe them, until November at the earliest. I asked point blank, “what is he supposed to do about medications until then?” “You can speak with his primary doctor and see if she will prescribe them for you.” What if she won’t prescribe them? Tough luck. Well, I guess we could put him in psych when his medications wear off and he runs out of them. then they will pretty much have to prescribe them. But why should it come to that?
I went to the pharmacy to pick up his medication and what do I find? nothing. So I said, “he is on an auto-fill plan how can this be?” It’s not logical The tech calls the pharmacist who explains it to me. “We call the doctor two weeks before the refill is due. “We call the doctor one week before the refill is due.” “We call the doctor three days before the refill is due.” “We call the doctor daily until the refill order arrives.” Now, normally, the pharmacist says, “we call once and it’s filled. We have been doing this with your son’s medications since March. This month we have received no response.” Moving out of state provided care I had already scheduled an appointment with his primary to get a psychological evaluation referral. So I asked her, can you refer us to a
Thinking back to the past couple of months with our son, there have been significant times when I have felt like a failure as a father. You know what? That is okay. Here is why. This, let’s call him our invention, is a human being. A thinking, walking, talking embodiment of all that is wrong with the “drug culture” in our world. Nothing will ever take that part of him away. Even if he wasn’t a product of that culture via his birth mom’s need for a high, he would still be a thinking, walking, talking individual with a brain and a voice. Do you follow me? Unlike Edison’s Invention Factory, this invention can’t be taken back to the drawing board for a redesign. So. Why don’t we accept that some aspect of parenting didn’t work as intended for what ever reason, call it the failure that it was, learn