Category Archives: Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)

Beginning to Transform Our Parenting Style

Transform Parenthood – the beginning In my last post, I shared the beginning stages of how we transform ourselves as parents. I also talk about the impetus behind the transformation. Like I stated in that post, making the decision to transform  your style as a parent is easy. Following thru is something else entirely. Do What is Right, Not What is Easy. Right for David is being the in the community with his peers. Public school. Mainstream classes. It means trust where none existed before. In addition it means that we need to be accepting of the fact that things will happen. It means holding David accountable while basically ignoring the incident for a minimum of 24 hours, though 48 hours is better. On his first day of school in the new district, David asked for an aide to support him. We told the school staff that there was a

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About that quilt…

“About that quilt.” I know, the title is rather cryptic.  It is not at all descriptive. And that’s okay.  Last Spring, I wrote about the unfinished quilt. Remember? I wrote about how in a situation like ours, we were constantly removing pieces of the quilt and trying different things in their place. Since we moved last summer, we have made incredible changes.  Our family dynamic has changed.  We owe this simply to the move into the city from our small community.  Jobs changed.  Stress levels are reduced. We now have four kids in college. So what is different? Simply put – Everything.  This time when David is discharged, he will be coming home to a new house he has never lived in.  He will be starting a new school.  He will have access to activities that weren’t available in our small town.  He should have access to a greater range

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Don’t give up on me.

With those few words, “Don’t give up on me.” David ended our phone call tonight. I assure him each time that I won’t.  He is our son and will always be our son.  See today he admitted to assaulting his mom.  If he had been adult, he would have been guilty of a felony. As it is, he is in a detention center where he has been since March 27th.  On Friday he will move to what is called a safe bed, which will allow him a bit more freedom, as well as a chance to get back on his medication.  (why the detention center for youth doesn’t give him his medications like they are prescribed is a fight for another day).  Then next Tuesday, he will be moving to a Youth Home in another city. See.  For the longest time, we (his whole team) has referred to his condition

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