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A time to seek forgiveness?

I have been really struggling this week. Struggling with my hatred for an individual I have never met. Since I have left this hatred in my heart, I believe that it is affecting my health. I need to let it go. No amount of hatred can undo the damage that was done to David in the 9 month period that she had custody of his body before he was born. No amount of hatred will make him whole. So why be hateful? Ghandi said it best. “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” Forgiving isn’t the same as forgetting. All we have to do is look into David’s eyes to remember. All we have to do is to remember that without her, we wouldn’t have this child to call our son, our brother, our family. All of our energies should be spent helping David achieve

Your son doesn’t have an attachment to your family.

Today we had family therapy. The therapist asked if she could bring in David’s equine therapist during the last half hour. I responded with, I have no problems with that. The equine therapist wanted to talk to me about something that she wasn’t comfortable addressing in front of the whole team at the CRC meeting. The CRC meeting is where we staff David’s case each month. It is the opinion of the equine therapist that David has no attachments to anyone in the family. To the point where he sometimes can’t remember names of the other kids. While on one hand this is very sad, it isn’t something that we didn’t anticipate. We know David has attachment issues. We know this because we have spent over 11 years with the young man and are aware of his blessings. That said, it is nice that someone outside of the family is

Identity issues

Since David’s placement I have experieced something of an identity crisis. For a long time our lives were all about him. David did this. David did that. David needs to see his psychiatrist. David needs a different med. David assaulted so and so. David poisoned the dog. David took. Somedays I am lost without him getting into things and causing trouble. Other days I am so very thankful for the residential placement that he is in now. Today we are staffing David at the residential faciility. Maybe Tweet #fighting4answrs