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he is a known liar. why believe him?

I get calls from David.  Complaining about this or that.  Today he was refusing to go to school.

After explaining why he didn’t want to go to school, I let David know that he can’t hide from whatever or whomever he thinks is bothering him.  And that he should go to school.

I figured that was the end of it.

About 6 hours later, I received a call from a staff member.  David had a rough day.

He struggled with being in school because “dad told me I didn’t have to go to school today.”

Now, if David is known to lie, why would they believe him?

It would have been a simple matter to get me on the phone and ask me if I had told him that.  Quick and easy verification.

I talked to his Care Coordinator who doesn’t work in the facility where David lives, and touched base with her to keep her in the loop.  I even told her that he would probably tell them I told him it was okay to not go to school today.

Tomorrow we are going to visit.  I hope it goes well.

We do not withhold family visits as a form of punishment.  It is my hope that he won’t hide behind his “anxiety” to keep from visiting with the rest of the family.  The weather has been decent, and looks to hold for a couple of more days.

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While he is in care, I don’t like to write a lot of things about what he is doing, as I feel it is improper.  I do share a lot of articles on our facebook page which you can find at https://www.facebook.com/fighting4answers.

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Please document his actions and attitudes

David is on a track to potential discharge in March of 2016.  I won’t go in to the ins and outs of his program.

I don’t necessarily agree with discharge at this point.

David has been having difficulties the last two days.  And a couple of times over the last month.

If his care and issues aren’t properly documented, my fear is that he will not get the care that he needs.  His behaviors are escalating.

Please, don’t do him any favors by not documenting his care.  If he does something, please document it.  It is the only way to ensure that he is getting the care he needs.

We saw this in his last placement where things weren’t documented in the lodge/cottage/residence.  He ended up being discharged against doctors orders because Medicaid said he needed to go home since he wasn’t making any progress and was not regressing either.

Document, document, document…

Merry Christmas.

Visiting David

Last week we didn’t get to see David because two of us were sick.

This week, I am still not feeling well, but we went anyway.

He was in a mood.  Not sure why.  He wanted to play basketball, and I couldn’t.  He wanted to play badmiton, and I couldn’t.  Part of it was because the other residents were in the gym.  To me there is an expectation of privacy.  I shouldn’t be part of their world directly because I am not staff.  Just like they shouldn’t be part of mine.

Regardless, unless staff tells me it is okay, I am not actively participating in activities with kids I don’t know.  And even if I had the okay, not sure how comfortable I would be.

So David was in a mood.  Refused to eat.  Didn’t want to cooperate.  Asked every five minutes what time it was.

He also talked about restitution.  He evidently lost something, and has to pay restitution.  Six hours of community service within the residence.

When it was time to go, he took all of our lunch trays back to the residential kitchen.  Then went to the gym.  No goodbyes, no “see ya later”  just left us.

Staff did the same.  We ended up setting off an alarm when we tried to leave.  That was interesting.