What do you do when you need to balance the mental illness of one child against the wellness of a whole family? Do you allow the mentally ill and potentially very violent child to return home? Or do you push for another residential placement?
David and I are traveling six hours tomorrow to get him evaluated for Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. This is a second opinion. At 15, he likely will not be able to get any services for the diagnosis. But like I have said in the past, I don’t want anyone to say we haven’t tried to do everything that we can for him. I made arrangements to pick up from the residential facility where he lives. I purposely didn’t tell him, and I told the staff that we weren’t going to tell him. He obsesses about things. So why cause him stress unnecessarily? Guess what? Someone told him what was going on tomorrow. It isn’t the end of the world for me that he knows, but you would think his world is ending. I have talked to him more since Friday than I have talked to him in the last three
I don’t write about anyone in the family except David, unless I am writing about things he has done to his siblings. Today, I am writing about my son… let’s call him George. George has Asperger’s Syndrome, which falls in the Autism Spectrum Disorder list. He does really well. Earlier this year, he brought up the idea of attending Boys State. So we encouraged him to apply. He was accepted, but I could see as school ended, and summer began he was beginning to show some anxiety about what Boys State would mean. We talked about ways for him to be successful. About embracing those aspects of his Asperger’s Syndrome which will benefit him during the time at Boys State. George has a phenomenal memory. I would say that he is highly intelligent, but he doesn’t like to show that off, because, he admits he is afraid of letting us