Category Archives: asking for help

I’ll beat you with this shovel

Heck of a title for this post. Last evening, my son stormed out of the house in anger. I waited about 20 minutes before going after him.  I thought it would give him time to cool down. Not to be. He started throwing things out of the cars, so I worked my way through them to lock the doors and make sure things were where they were supposed to be. As I got to the last one, he began threatening me. He had a basketball that he kept throwing down the street, so I took it and put it in the garage.  He went and got it.  So, I am ashamed to admit, I deflated the ball. I didn’t acknowledge him in any way during this period. I was working on moving a vintage sewing machine into our house, when he grabbed a shovel and threatened to beat me with

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when it rains, it pours

Ah, the old cliche.  When it rains, it pours. Did you know that this phrase hearkens back to an advertisement from the Morton Salt company? This evening, when Mom called to let us know that she was on her way home from work, David started acting up. I now know why. See, he stole an old cell phone from his mom’s dresser drawer.  And he tried to hide it.  In the process the dog went missing from his tie out. Which he tried to blame on the “bad people in town”. More on the dog story later. Back to the cell phone.  David swears that if we would provide him with a cell phone of his own, he would stop stealing them.  How do I reward a negative behavior with a positive item? When he was in safe bed he wrote a long detailed letter about why he should get

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Round Two of the Battle for Services

We are repeatedly told that we need to do more. So we are doing more.  We have added intensive in home therapy, individual therapy, and have ongoing mentor support (staff).  We also are visiting doctors and psychiatrists. I spend my days either on the road to the cities, or at home chasing down this report or that report.  The reports are the WISC, BASC and what not.  It seems like it takes four or five calls to track down who has the report.  Then it takes four or five calls to get them to release the records. Of course, everyone needs a release signed, though we sign them in the Spring of the year.  So I travel in the other direction in order to get those releases signed. Last week, a call was made to the in state facility.  This generated a review of the decision to deny placement of

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