Category Archives: asking for help

calls from staff in mental health unit

Just got off the phone with a social worker from the unit. She explained that they will work with us as much as they can to get him into a residential treatment center (rtc). Limitation on his stay where he is at while we get this sorted is Medicaid. Medicaid could decide at any time that he has stayed there long enough. Sucks when bureaucracy can make life decisions on your behalf. Some one watching their computer screen could see his case pop up on their screen, and decide that it has been 48, 72 or 96 hours and that he needs to come home.  Because there “is no therapeutic need for him to be there”. Never mind that he is there while we work placement arrangements. So I said, “if they decide that, we will pull him out, put ourselves up in a hotel and then check him back

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The truth about David.

We visited David tonight.  He wants to come home.  As much as we want him to come home, home isn’t the best place for him. It isn’t just the Reactive Attachment Disorder. It isn’t just the Autism. It isn’t just the Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. It isn’t just the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. It isn’t just the Oppositional Defiant Disorder, the Childhood Conduct Disorder, the bipolar disorder, or any of the other diagnoses that he has and has had. It is the combination of all of these things that is what is working against him. What does this mean for David? Home isn’t the best place for him.  He never should have been discharged.  The psychiatrist indicated that she sees no change in him now from before he began his first placement. So Monday.  We are going to start the paperwork.  The process.  The doctor is documenting their end of the

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I feel bad.

Right now.  this very instant, I feel bad. Not sick, but upset with myself. Why? Because I am looking forward to tomorrow. David goes with his mentor for 6 hours. That doesn’t mean I won’t worry about what he is up to.  Rather it means that I will worry a bit less. I just feel like I shouldn’t look forward to him being away from home.  Yet, in some ways, it is the highlight of our week.  No arguing.  No attitude.  No self-righteous indignation and blaming others for what he has done.  (at least until he gets home and blames the mentor for what ever he did.) arguing with David reminds me of this scene in Rain Man. Tweet #fighting4answrs