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It’s your fault Dad for not helping me be honest

kitchen basketDavid said “It’s your fault dad, for not helping me be honest.”

And he still claims he is innocent, and the mentor is lying.

About what?  Yeah, I guess that would be helpful to know.

When David got home last night from his mentor time, he had a basketball.  Said that the mentor let him buy it with his flex funds.  (Typically, by the end of the month the flex funds are gone.)  At any rate, David said that the ball cost 70 dollars.

So I confirmed all of this with the Mentor Coordinator who followed up with the mentor.

David has mentors two times a week.  Yesterday he was with his mentor at the YMCA.  Toward the end of their time together, David said he was hungry and demanded to go to McDonalds.  The mentor refused.  They had already spent the day’s allotted funds on food.  So David took off running. Out of the building.  The mentor, basketball in hand chased after him.

The ball isn’t ours.  Or the mentor’s.  it belongs to the YMCA.

David, is adamant that every one is lying.  I told him when he decides he can be honest, he would have consequences, and then we would move forward.  So he said he would lie, and tell me that the ball wasn’t his.  Asked what his punishment was.  Grounded.  for the day.

So, he started with a long diatribe about how it was 72 degrees outside, and there would never be another nice day like it again.  Wanted to know what he could do.

I said, there is always your Nintendo DS.  Nope.  he erased all of his data from the DS, then threw the game cartridges in the kitchen garbage.

That is when he said, “It’s your fault dad, for not helping me be honest.”

I am trying.  David, I am really trying.

Shortly after, he wanted to call the Sheriff to talk to them about how everyone was lying.  I told him that was fine, but that we could also have him charged with theft. For stealing the basketball from his mentor.

Another lecture about how I couldn’t do that, because it was against the law.

Oh, and he said he wants to be a Police Officer.

Today happens to be his mom’s birthday.  I talked to her about this all before I said anything to David about it.  I said, “you know, if I say something to him, your birthday isn’t going to be much fun…”

She understands, but also said “he needs to be accountable.”

So, I am trying David, but honesty has to come from within.  I can’t force you to be honest.  It isn’t that easy.

oops I fell asleep around 530am

shortly after my last post, I fell asleep.

at around 5:30am, I just couldn’t keep my eyes open.  at 6:24am, I hear David running across the kitchen.  he managed to steal one of the keys from my key ring, and then break into his brother’s bedroom and steal his brother’s cell phone.  tell me that is compulsive behavior… I don’t believe compulsion is planned out like that is it?

ooooh shiny toy – mine

the dreaded call.  David

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was with his mentor today.  stole a toy.  lied about it.  neither of which is anything new.

He evidently doesn’t understand that we will check and confirm everything that he says.  And that if he comes home with a new toy, we will confirm that someone paid for it. No free rides.

Grrr.. I am just so frustrated with the situation.

If he has a mentor for social outings, and to give us a break, and consistently steals while with the mentor, how long before they stopped taking him?  On the other hand, they know that he takes things that aren’t his.  Why don’t they keep a better eye on what he is doing?  I even discussed them searching him if they were concerned about him taking something.

When we were at wal-mart last week, he said he had to go to the bathroom.  Said he knew where it was and would be right back… nope. not going to happen buddy.  I will escort you to the bathroom.

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