This week, I learned the results of the latest Child and Protective Services (CPS) investigation. Because of allegations made by David, we believe he was attempting to manipulate the system to get to live where he wants rather than at home, there was a complaint made against me. The complaint said that I “was exploiting my son, that I threw him to the sidewalk, that I hugged him too much, as well as told him “I love you”, and that I was antagonizing him to provoke a response.” I wrote about it when I first learned of the investigation. Remember? There was an investigation before that regarding washing David’s mouth out with soap. Initially when the complaint in October came out, I met with a detective from the Sheriff’s office. From that meeting, I stated that I would change my son’s name to David for the purposes of this blog.
It is interesting, the things that we learn about ourselves when we see with the eyes of a mentally ill person. I am an antagonist. At least according to the doctors, based in part on the things that David has said to them. I push him to do the things that he does. Never mind the notes from psychiatrists, doctors and team members that were documented records of the things that he said and did while in their care. Never mind the frequent recommendations from psychiatrists that stated my son needs to be in long term psychiatric care. I am the bad guy. I hold my son accountable. I have had to restrain him. I make no secret of the fact. Using a restraining hold on David is a measure of last resort and only if I feel that there is danger to him or anyone else. So now, we
According to David, every one is lying. The nurse staff who documented everything that came out of his mouth to the hospital social worker who made the complaint to CPS to the CPS worker who “asked if I wanted to live with an aunt.” David claims that he never told them anything about me restraining him on the pavement. He doesn’t know where that came from. He also claims that it wasn’t his idea to stay with his aunt. The sad reality? Even the nursing staff knows and understands that he tells lies. How come the hospital social worker and the CPS worker can’t see the same? We have three social workers directly as members of David’s team, plus a psychiatrist, a psychologist and his education team. One would think that the people should listen to the person who knows David the best from outside the family. Our Care Coordinator