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The Race Conversation This isn’t a Black Lives Matter post, yet it is. Does that make sense? Today, we had a meeting with David at his school because he got caught hacking the school network and surfing pornography during class time. His punishment is loss of technology privileges for the rest of the semester. In addition he has two days of in school suspension. The suspension has to be successful without redirects from the school principal. He will have redirects from the teacher, this is a given, but if the principal gets involved, then his day in suspension won’t count. Make sense? I have no issues with that. All of this is merely the setup for the conversation I had to have with him. The Conversation David wasn’t expecting to see me today. I happened to be in the city near his facility and school, so stopped to see him

Good morning.

Good morning. How about an angry tantrum to start your day? David starts school today. As a result he seems to want to get the whole days attention in the half hour before he gets in the car that takes him to school. He is now accusing us of child abuse because we have to help him take his medicine in the morning. He likes to throw it around the room, so we have to hold the back of his head to get him to take it. This morning, within five minutes of getting up, he started with his tantrum. I am so tired of the constant battles. No matter how often I tell him he can’t go to Cenex, I bet you good money the van driver will take the kids there, not all of the kids deserve to be punished because of my son. Every time I say

when it rains, it pours

Ah, the old cliche. When it rains, it pours. Did you know that this phrase hearkens back to an advertisement from the Morton Salt company? This evening, when Mom called to let us know that she was on her way home from work, David started acting up. I now know why. See, he stole an old cell phone from his mom’s dresser drawer. And he tried to hide it. In the process the dog went missing from his tie out. Which he tried to blame on the “bad people in town”. More on the dog story later. Back to the cell phone. David swears that if we would provide him with a cell phone of his own, he would stop stealing them. How do I reward a negative behavior with a positive item? When he was in safe bed he wrote a long detailed letter about why he should get