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Fear and Company – Reacting to Attachment

David is doing well. But then, he always does fairly well while he is in care. We do regular visits, when we go to the city, we try to at least take him out for a meal. We also spend time with him at the facility and when we do our supply shopping, he goes with us. This is all a far cry from bringing him home on a day pass. Or a weekend pass. I get that he is doing well. He is good at that. Always has been. We have seen where he struggles with success in the facility and self-sabotages that success. Last year he was home for almost 10 months. During which time, we lived what can best be characterized as a shelter, fear filled life. Not just me, but the whole family. We lived in fear of what he might do. So please, understand that

he is a known liar. why believe him?

I get calls from David. Complaining about this or that. Today he was refusing to go to school. After explaining why he didn’t want to go to school, I let David know that he can’t hide from whatever or whomever he thinks is bothering him. And that he should go to school. I figured that was the end of it. About 6 hours later, I received a call from a staff member. David had a rough day. He struggled with being in school because “dad told me I didn’t have to go to school today.” Now, if David is known to lie, why would they believe him? It would have been a simple matter to get me on the phone and ask me if I had told him that. Quick and easy verification. I talked to his Care Coordinator who doesn’t work in the facility where David lives, and touched

Please document his actions and attitudes

David is on a track to potential discharge in March of 2016. I won’t go in to the ins and outs of his program. I don’t necessarily agree with discharge at this point. David has been having difficulties the last two days. And a couple of times over the last month. If his care and issues aren’t properly documented, my fear is that he will not get the care that he needs. His behaviors are escalating. Please, don’t do him any favors by not documenting his care. If he does something, please document it. It is the only way to ensure that he is getting the care he needs. We saw this in his last placement where things weren’t documented in the lodge/cottage/residence. He ended up being discharged against doctors orders because Medicaid said he needed to go home since he wasn’t making any progress and was not regressing either.