This week, I learned the results of the latest Child and Protective Services (CPS) investigation. Because of allegations made by David, we believe he was attempting to manipulate the system to get to live where he wants rather than at home, there was a complaint made against me. The complaint said that I “was exploiting my son, that I threw him to the sidewalk, that I hugged him too much, as well as told him “I love you”, and that I was antagonizing him to provoke a response.” I wrote about it when I first learned of the investigation. Remember? There was an investigation before that regarding washing David’s mouth out with soap. Initially when the complaint in October came out, I met with a detective from the Sheriff’s office. From that meeting, I stated that I would change my son’s name to David for the purposes of this blog.
Today, David was placed in a psychiatric residential treatment facility. He was a bit nervous, but hid it well. Seems like a rather nice facility. Hopefully, he won’t be discharged against doctor’s orders again. For treatment to be successful, the decision to keep a patient in care shouldn’t be up to an insurance company. It is going to take time for our family to return to pre-chaos life. As much as we love having David in our home, we really don’t like the behaviors. In time, his siblings will feel like they don’t need to hide in their rooms. The current placement is an hour from our home so we can have frequent visits to him. The nice thing too is that we have family in the city, so we can couple the visit to David with a visit to other family. Wish David luck. Tweet #fighting4answrs
One added benefit to blogging about our son and his mental health illnesses, is that it also gives me a timeline of some of his behaviors. Of course, I don’t document everything here. But this is a good baseline for everything that he has been through. So, for example, when a facility asks me for two weeks of behaviors coupled with the dates that they occurred, I don’t have to look far. I can come here and review two weeks worth of posts and have pretty much everything. Is it everything? Like I said previously, not by a long shot. What some entries do is trigger memories of other lesser events. I guess the point I am making here, is document. Document. Document! Write down every behavior that is not right for your home. Write down that the child argued about his coat, in fact threw a fit because he