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Feelings of Futility

We are pending approval for placement in a psychiatric facility. Placement is dependent on the insurance company approving the need. Certificate of Need is generated by the insurance company. This allows placement. Certificate of Need is based in part on the last psychiatric appointment that David had with his doctor. So, we finally received the notes from his last psych appointment. Again, the record is inaccurate. Every time we have to argue with medical records to get copies of the record, the notes have been inaccurate. I understand that doctors are busy people, but when placement hinges on accurate notes, writing things like this destroys any chance of placement. The doctor wrote that “patient swung a shovel at his father and broke the sewing machine, after his father washed his mouth out with soap.” Among other things, David is a known liar. The shovel incident happened because we were holding

American Express warning

So, I received this message from “American Express”. Now, this would be an appropriate alert, if… I was one to download web pages to my desktop to run them later. I had an American Express Card. So how about some tips? More and more, we are forced to move toward receiving notifications from companies regarding billing, alerts and propaganda. Our world is increasing digitally and decreasing in paper. Does that make sense? If you receive an alert such as this one, go to the company portal directly, do not click a link in the email message that you received. Call the customer service line to get a voice from the company on the phone to confirm what you are reading. If a company sends out an alert of any kind, they will use proper English. While I didn’t click on any of the links in the email alert that

Reciprocity

One of the difficult things about raising a child like our son, David, is that the love that we feel for our son will likely never be reciprocated. It isn’t that he doesn’t bond with people, he just doesn’t bond with family. It is a facet of the attachment disorder. He is more likely to bond with a complete stranger, at least briefly, than he is to develop a bond with us. This is our reality. Just as we can’t force him to modify his behavior, we can’t force him to feel any kind of love or feeling toward the family. As a piece of that, he understands that telling someone, “I will take a knife and stab you” is not appropriate. He shows no remorse for saying it. To him it is no different than saying “the sun is shining”. It’s tragic really. The only thing that he regrets