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It’s not our fault.

Most of my readers know me from facebook. I am in a number of groups there, and while I would love to list them all here, it would break some aspects of confidentiality for me to do so. What I see most often in the groups that I am a part of is: “part of this is my fault. If I had done this, or that, he/she wouldn’t have had the meltdown.” When you are dealing with a child that has a mental illness, things happen that are beyond our control. Even if said child is biological rather than adopted. I tell my readers here the same thing as what I tell those in my various groups. “It is not our fault.” Simply words really. Unless you directly caused the trauma that made your child the way he or she is, it really is not your fault. As a parent,

update – positive news

Staff called tonight. David was in a good place to talk to me tonight. When he is manic, it just isn’t a good idea. David addressed his concerns. Doesn’t want to be there for another 6 months to a year. Thinks that he is being lied to. Doesn’t understand why we aren’t coming out for Christmas. Wants a Nintendo DS for Christmas. In truth. Before David can come home, not only does he need to work his treatment plan, but he also needs to avoid outbursts, and learn to identify when he is starting a manic episode if he can. In addition to that, before he can come home, there needs to exist, a residence that is similar to the facility he is in currently. One that will provide him a step-down or transition to home. A place from where we can stage home visits. Where

an update. close watch again

David is on close watch again. He is under the belief that no matter what he does there, he is going to be moved to another facility. But that is not entirely why he is on close watch. He is on close watch because: he climbed to the top of his closet and hid there. he is threatening to self harm again. he is combative. he is tearing large pieces of wood from the bottom of his bed. he is at risk. I don’t know if he is delusional or what, but I do know that in the past when he has been like this, it has had a direct affect on my health. See, I have an auto-immune disorder. Lupus. Systemic. Basically what that means is my body doesn’t like me, and when I feel stress my body goes into self attack mode and tries to hurt me by