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On teaching

school-649390_1280Remember that time you called the teacher a “know nothing jerk who is the epitome of what is wrong with the education profession today”?  Sure some teachers shouldn’t be in the field, but it is your job to raise awareness and fight for your child’s rights, not to rub their nose in it.  Like it or not, the teacher, subconsciously, will impact your child in a way that can take years to undo.  All because of the things that you say.

Look at me.  Eating my own words.  I was that parent.

I don’t know of any educator who went into education with the mindset of “I want to see how many young minds I can destroy”.

When it comes to the lives and education of our children, we need to meet half way.  Don’t give on following the law.  That should be a no-brainer.  If you absolutely can not meet with your child’s professional team successfully bring in someone not closely tied to the case.  I am not talking an advocate here, because they do serve a purpose.  Bring in another parent.  Someone that you trust to keep the calm between your side of the table and their side of the table.

Shouldn’t it be “our table”  or “insert kid’s name here table”?   Because honestly, no matter the shape of the table, we all have the best interest of a child in mind.  Don’t we?

If we don’t then there is something drastically wrong.

being a parent

room-857925_1280I was reflecting on the past couple of years with David, and of course with my blog.

When did I become a leader?

I look to some of the communities that I participate in each day both via facebook.com and via other web boards, and I see myself responding to questions, thoughts and ideas put forth by other parents.

Like it or not, people see you as a leader, is that a bad thing?

No.

It is not a bad thing, in fact, it is positive thing.  So many times we find our leaders foisting their ideas and ideals upon us.  I tend to lead by example much of the time.  I don’t call bull as much as I likely should, but that isn’t a bad thing either.  Here is why.  People need to learn from their own life events.  Sure, by sharing our life, I can raise awareness, indeed I can show the world how things are done in our household, but remember one key thing here.

What works for me today likely won’t work for me tomorrow.  What works for me may not work for you.  And of course, those things that work for others may not work for us either.

Nothing wrong with that.  There is no “One size fits all” method to parenting.

Truly.  All that we can do, is be the best example of what we want to see in our children.  Fight for their needs and rights, while remembering not to trample on the needs of others.

You want to know the number one thing that I learned as a parent?  I don’t know it all.

The number two thing?  Teachers are parents too.  Not just talking about their own children here.  In a way, they are modeling appropriate behavior for your child that your child will pick up on.  In most cases that isn’t a bad thing.

 

Coming milestones

Doubting Dad

Doubting Dad

Sometime in the month of September I will write post 1000 for my little site.  In the blogger community numbers are huge.

Sometime this fall I will hit 100,000 page views.

Normally when a blog hits either of these two milestones the blog author celebrates.  They celebrate their good fortune at being able to continue the writing process and at the same time, increasing readership of their blog.

I won’t be celebrating.  My celebration will occur when I no longer feel compelled to use this as the therapy for the things that we deal with every day in our house.

I wonder how many milestones I will hit with this little blog of mine.

I am still working on a book about our adventures with David, so that others may learn and benefit from the things we deal with every day.

Anyway, as I close post 978, I thank you for reading.  When the time comes, I will let you know when we can celebrate my writing about issues related to fathering children like David, rather than writing about David.  Until then cheers.