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Breaking hearts, practicing tough love with our son

Breaking our hearts to practice tough love with David. He called home for the first time since he was placed in detention. Full of tears, and a story about how he banished the bad version of himself. Breaking Hearts During the first hearing, he didn’t want to talk to us. During the second, he said hello. He isn’t happy there in the detention center. Nothing to do and in bed by 6pm. He claims they won’t let him read or do anything. And he can’t visit with peers. We can go visit him for an hour on Sunday. In order to visit, we have to give 24 hours notice. He told me that he wasn’t getting his medicine. I talked to the staff and they said he wasn’t in compliance. So tomorrow, I’ll find out what that means. Because he needs his medicine and will have all sorts of problems

How can we change it? Relinquishing custody to get mental health care.

When I question something relating to David’s care, it isn’t me questioning you or your integrity. In most cases, I am not questioning your company or organization policy. I am questioning the system of care that forces archaic and anarchistic ideas on a population who doesn’t understand why things are the way they are. So when you say “this is the way it is”, my first question is going to be one of two things… “Why?” “How can we change it?” In most cases, there should be no need to relinquish custody to get mental health care. Am I saying that I am against giving custody? No. I am just saying that it shouldn’t be the only way to get him care. what is so magical about custody when needing mental health care? Why does giving custody to the state grant the appearance of more or better care? We will

Again with Custody

Last summer we heard from the psychiatrists, “in order to get the level of care he needs, you need to give up custody.” I asked then, “why?” Again this month we are hearing “will you give up custody to do this… ” and the answer isn’t easy. It is something that we have struggled with. Yes, in the event that was the only way he could get the care he needs, we would do that. Giving up custody doesn’t mean that we aren’t his parents. It is the next level of care. I have a question though. If he can access all these wonderful services while in the custody of the state, or county, why can’t he access those same services when he is in our custody? What is so special about state custody? He has already been abandoned once. Why would we want to make him feel like it