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Beginning to Transform Our Parenting Style

Transform Parenthood – the beginning In my last post, I shared the beginning stages of how we transform ourselves as parents. I also talk about the impetus behind the transformation. Like I stated in that post, making the decision to transform your style as a parent is easy. Following thru is something else entirely. Do What is Right, Not What is Easy. Right for David is being the in the community with his peers. Public school. Mainstream classes. It means trust where none existed before. In addition it means that we need to be accepting of the fact that things will happen. It means holding David accountable while basically ignoring the incident for a minimum of 24 hours, though 48 hours is better. On his first day of school in the new district, David asked for an aide to support him. We told the school staff that there was a

Transforming Parenthood

Transform Parenting Styles – Measures taken to embrace new ideas It’s been forever since we posted about David, and this is a result of our decision to transform how we saw parenthood. Specifically parent hood of David. The decision to transform was easy, actually beginning to transform our parenting styles was much more difficult. This post is about what that looks like for us, for David and for our family. Readers may remember that David came home in January of this year. During the last months of his stay in the care facility, we heard repeatedly that they had cured him. An adjective that we frequently heard was how he is. Beginning in November of last year, mom and I began discussing how we could adapt our parenting to David’s needs. Because honestly, what is hugely important to mom and I, has no bearing to David and his life. Those

trying something new part II

In trying something new, I described efforts we were undergoing to change how we respond to David, and how we let him affect us. Yesterday, we were given an added tip or coping mechanism. Laughter. When angry we should laugh more, because it is difficult to be angry while laughing. On one hand, I think it is an act of lunacy. But on the other hand, it makes perfect sense. Can you be angry while you are laughing? I can’t. Last night the power was out for roughly 5 hours. We repeatedly asked David to stay in the same room as us. We ordered him to do so. He didn’t and wouldn’t. For most kids this isn’t such a huge issue, however, when your child is a thief and does things like playing with fire, you sure don’t want them roaming around in the dark unhindered. Especially when we discovered