Adoption. It can be a trigger for negative behavior. Here is a hint. – Not everyone who is adopted is like my son David. Not everyone who is adopted has mental health issues. Just because someone is adopted, doesn’t automatically require them to seek psychiatric help. Labeling people for any reason is just not good practice. How would you like it if those who are adopted said that every school administrator was in need of a psychiatric evaluation just because they are a school administrator? You know? if every parent whispers conspiratorially with other parents “they are a school principal and need to be evaluated for mental defect.” I bet school administrators would get defensive quickly. Why should it be any different for parents to get defensive when an administrator uses the fact that a child is adopted as a reason to seek psychiatric evaluations for that child? I
When we adopted our youngest, we did an adoption study. We had to write a bio and answer a ton of questions. Growing up, I had step-dad’s. My brother and I were adopted. Bio-Dad was in prison. Mom doesn’t acknowledge that period of her life. For those Dad’s who played a role in my life, I salute you. Dad, the one who gave us his name, wasn’t around, he was busy with his new family. I was 11 when I was raped by one of the bastards that I refer to as step-dad. I never spoke about it at the time. He regularly beat my brother and I. More so my brother than I, but I can remember seeing him throw my brother thru a wall. I had two favorite step-dads. One was a pro-golfer and never around in the summer time. Mom left him.
I write today, not because I am frustrated with my son. He isn’t home from school as of yet, and by all accounts he is having a decent day. In his world, I can never ask for more than that. I am writing because of the naysayers. You know who you are. It isn’t just the local ones saying stuff. Some are kind enough to say things directly to me, others are more catty. They don’t think that things can get back to people. I am not here to please any of you. I am here to raise awareness about mental illness, adoption and family support. I am doing the best I can with the situation that my family is in. Is it less than ideal? Heck yes. Is there anything that I can do about it that I am not already doing? Hell no! I am doing everything in