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Victory of the day 3-28-2012

Today’s victory is brought to you by David. David has a compulsion about electronic gadgets.  He takes them. Doesn’t matter who they belong to. Today he took his brother’s cell phone. Tonight, David gave it back without a fit, any lies, or a tantrum. If it only happens once in a while where he is honest about his takings, and gives things back, that is a victory.  Eventually, maybe we can get him trained to stop stealing.  But it is huge that he gave an item back without a meltdown. Related articles hoarding of electronic gadgets (whynotfathers.com) Tweet #fighting4answrs

again with the electronic gadgets…

David got caught with one of his brother’s DSi’s again.  You would think that he would learn.  But there is a hidden compulsion that drives him to take these things. It is most frustrating that over and over again we tell him he can’t do that, and he does it anyway. “I don’t know how it got in my bed…” he says.   We have tried to reward him on days when he doesn’t take anything, and we have tried to take things away when he gets caught, but nothing works. Now some people are of a mind to say: spank him…Well, I don’t know you, but I think we could spank him until your hand hurt, and it wouldn’t make a bit of difference to him. No, we don’t beat him or anything like that.  That would make no sense.  So he gets what ever taken away, and he

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Keys, Keys, where are the Keys?

David, demands attention.  If you don’t give it to him, he will do something negative. What is the definition of negative?  Theft.  Yelling. Lies. those kinds of things.  Yesterday a set of mom’s keys went missing.  David cried about how he didn’t take them, and how we should believe him just this one time.  I then went through his room.  I found: My “Harley Fund” coin bank. Mom’s confirmation medallion. a check made out to his brother for five dollars from another person. (His brother’s name was crossed out, and David wrote his own name in its place.) scissors food boxes and cans. knives. a telephone I didn’t find the keys. Eventually, David said he would help look for them.  I granted him amnesty if he would just give them back.  All of a sudden he remembered seeing them in a clothes basket upstairs.  So we went to see if

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