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Thoughts – control – arguments and what not

I have been torn.  Since David has come home, we have had quite a few good days.  The bad days, holy.  It is trying on the whole family when they happen. So I am going to take a page from another parent of a child a lot like David.

No confrontations.  If he is spoiling for an argument, or a fight, we will just stop everything involving him.  No giving in.  By pursuing the fight, we are giving him what he wants.  That is attention.

Instead, we will continue what we have been doing.  Praise ALL of the positive behaviors and actions.

It won’t be easy.

We have tried the direct confrontation.  We have tried discipline, taking away privileges and that type of thing.

He may lose one privilege, but he won’t lose them all.  He needs to be able to burn off that energy.  Not letting him do so is a recipe for disaster.

The Nintendo DS is a means of coping.  As it gives him a focal point.

Please comment if you have any other tried and true methods.

Cheers,

Carl

Is this the start?

Caught David stealing food.

10933707_10205820074170553_1599785289395656830_nHe knows that all he has to do is tell us he is hungry.

We just don’t want him hoarding food in his bedroom.

Then he lies and blames it on others, including the cats.

We know that with his metabolism, he burns enough food for two or three other people.  We are not withholding food.

Makes me sad.

Is this the start of the end of the honeymood?

On a side note, his former psychiatrist agreed to accept him into her case load and not make us wait until the end of April.

Time to return to the book “Get Your Joy Back”.

I don’t understand

Something struck me this morning.  dscf1219-300x224

My son was in a psychiatric facility for more than a year.

He was discharged when Medicaid decided to stop funding his care.

No transition plan was in place the day my son was released to our care.

We have made the best of the last two weeks and I think we have done fairly well.  David has done fairly well.

Not one call from any of the staff at the facility to see how we are faring.  To see how David is faring.

We have gotten packets of files and documents but no after care or follow up.

I feel like David was abandoned by parts of the system that are supposed to help.  I don’t depend on the Government. I depend on people.

We will continue to do everything we can do.  We will continue to love our son.  We will continue to fight for the care that he needs.