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Emotionally drained

In less than twelve hours, mom and I will pick David up from his current residential facility. We will then drive 462 miles more or less, and admit him to his new facility.

While I have to believe that this is in his best interest, I also feel that in some small way we are letting him down.  There will not be any weekly visits.  Sure we can Skype, and talk on the phone, but it isn’t the same as being in the same room as your child.  You can’t give Skype a hug.

In the end, I have to believe that this is the right thing.

One thing I don’t understand about the new facility.  We have to do weekly therapy sessions.  Time and time again, therapy  has shown that David sees no benefit from these sessions.    Even therapists have said that he doesn’t benefit from them.   But, we will do what is necessary.

I wonder how difficult it will be for the new facility to understand that they need to keep on top of David’s meds and rotate them out roughly every 60 to 90 days.

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Scheduled IEP meeting

So it seems that David’s current teacher has some concerns about him transitioning to another school.  She wants to have an IEP before he moves and starts school out there.

David adores his teacher.  If she asks him to do something, he does it.  Sure he occasionally acts up, but, nothing like last year where we couldn’t keep him in the school.

I hate the idea of changing so many things in his life.  Moving will be bad enough, but leaving a good teacher behind, might make things worse.

Time will tell.

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Frustrating visit. Attitude.

214738908_80_80Prior to today’s visit, we had two weekend family visits left at David’s current facility. So we extended the visit by an hour.   Soon, he will be 500 miles away, making it impossible to visit him weekly.

The visit started out rocky with David not listening.  But he settled down.

Then an hour before the visit was to end, David started antagonizing his sister.  Pushing until she got upset.  So mom and I sat David down, we explained to him that our weekly visits were coming to an end because of the move to the new facility.

He got mouthy.  Said that he was told that it wasn’t happening for a while.

So we explained to him that it was happening in 12 days.  Denial set in.

So we packed up and ended the visit early.

Denial isn’t really the right word for it.  He just didn’t care.   We explained that his behaviors are the determining factor in both our visits, and his pending return home.  I can handle mouthy.  But when it gets so negative that it upsets the rest of the family, then we decide to end the visit early.

Back at the residence hall, I explained to staff about his behavior.  Evidently he has been acting up in the residence hall as well.

One the way home, his siblings asked if they could skip the next visit.

Next week, one of his aunts is going to visit.  We have instructed the staff that they are not to leave campus.  David has the ability to manipulate people.  Won’t let that happen if I can reasonably prevent it.  Besides, there are facilities on campus that are available for family visits.

 

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