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Against Medical Advice

Against Medical Advice. It’s been two years since this happened. Two years ago he was discharged against medical advice, David was discharged from the facility in another state because the insurance people who create the Certificate of Need decided that he wasn’t making any progress and needed to go home. This week, he will be discharged from a different facility. Not because of the Certificate of Need. But because the facility says he doesn’t need support and should be sent home. How can David continue to see the successes he has seen in care if he comes home to no support? Even David recognizes that he needs support. I don’t understand how so few can over power the recommendations of so many doctors. Bad Parent I am a bad parent. It’s a title my wife and I wear with honor. What makes us bad parents? We are fighting for the

the value in flaws of the mind

I talk regularly about David’s mental health. Flaws isn’t a good word for the way he is, or why he is the way he is. Even though most days I am flummoxed by what to do with his behaviors, his mind has value. Every mind has value. Why? With David, it is the simple things. When he wants to be helpful, regardless of the reason, you can’t find a better helper. If one of the pets is upset, he calms them down. He can calm pets for other people, especially cats, including one that is especially standoffish to anyone except her owner. He has a wicked sense of humor. He can hear conversations from 30 feet away, even if they don’t concern him. He is a voracious reader. A technology wizard. Every mind has value, there is a purpose for everything that is in the world. Sometimes we wonder at

hmmm Toby you smell bad

Toby is our Pomeranian. David decided that since Toby hadn’t had a haircut and bath recently that he would deodorize him. So he sprayed him with a Lysol type spray. So far the dog hasn’t gotten sick. And he did get a bath and hair cut this past weekend. We have explained before that he can’t spray the dogs with anything. Last time he was home, he sprayed two of our dogs with bug spray. No explanation as to why. Frustrating. And we do have locks on the cupboards. They aren’t even challenging to him anymore, he is an amateur locksmith. Tweet #fighting4answrs