Category Archives: Decisions

Articles in this category relate to making the decision for the dad to stay home, and the mom or primary care-giver to go back to the workforce.

The State of North Dakota Budget Cuts

We are beginning to see the affects that the budget cuts are having on David’s care here in North Dakota.   As a part of his ongoing care, I am trying to determine what services will be needed in the community for him to return home.  I am all about long range planning. One of the key services that we utilized before placement was mentor support.  Where he spent part of a day with a mentor doing things away from the home.  It gave David a break from us and it gave the family a break from David.  Due to the budget cuts that service is largely unavailable for him now. One mantra that we have heard here in North Dakota is that the budget cuts aren’t affecting people. I beg to differ.  Not only are the budget cuts affecting people, they have long reaching consequences.  We can’t get a

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Honest emotion

I cried today. I cried while mowing my lawn.  Mowing gives you time to think.  The drone of the mower is perfect for masking thoughts, for allowing them a fertile breeding ground. I cried for David.  For the little boy who wants so desperately to be loved, yet pushes away and punishes those who love him most, his family. I cried for the hope that is diminishing a little each day.  A hope that he will see that what he is doing is wrong, and the way he treats people is wrong. I cried out in prayer.  Something that I do everyday.  Pray.  Does God hear my prayers?  I believe that he does. I believe that David was brought into our lives for a reason.  Ours is not to question why.  Yet we struggle daily with his behaviors, his attitude, the words he says, the things he does.  We struggle.

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Was mental illness Blaec Lammers’ only crime? – CNN.com

Has society gone too far in de-institutionalization? Prison is not the place for our son to get any sort of help with his mental illness. Do I agree with the parents?  Yes.  They were afraid for their son’s life.  Did he deserve prison for this purchase? Do we pro-actively lock away people because they might do something with the guns they purchase? I am pro-gun.  To me gun control isn’t a law.  It is something I was taught by my father as a kid.  Always be aware of where you are pointing the firearm.  Treat every gun as if it were loaded. Are assault rifles needed?  Not in my home. When David comes home, we won’t have firearms in our home.  That is a personal decision. When David is of age, will there be anything preventing him from purchasing firearms?  Likely not.  Does that mean he deserves to be in

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