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Day 2 the evening. ~ frustrated

Well, everyone is home with our son and I.  Five kids plus my wife and I.  Our son seems to be content with pushing as many buttons as possible all evening long. Time-outs aren’t working.  Quiet time isn’t working. He just wants to push push push.  Every one is getting frustrated.

I wish that they hadn’t been forced to take him off of the clozeril.  Things are going to be much rougher than they were when he was in the residential facility.  We did home visits and all of that before he was discharged and these behaviours weren’t in evidence at that time.

Trying to cope. He isn’t like this during the day time when it is just him and I.

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An hour later, we covered him completely with the blanket.  Maybe too much input, as he is fine now.  He has stopped pushing buttons and is relaxed.

Day 1 – a recap

Today started out rough.  Bad mood on his behalf.  Once we got the siblings off to school, he was fine.  Spent the morning playing and looking for the homework pile that mom put together for us. Never did find it.

In the afternoon we went into the city for an appointment for me.  Grandpa was nice enough to host our son for the two hours I needed to go to my appointment. Everything went like clockwork.

Trying to get all of the players together to meet with the school district about his return to public school.  I think that it would be easier to get a job at the circus working as a lion tamer.  Very frustrating. In the meantime, in order to keep the district in compliance, we need to complete some paperwork that says we are home schooling our son. We aren’t home schooling him because we want to, we are home schooling him because the school refuses to allow him to return.  Very frustrating.

On a side note, when we went to give him his meds tonight, we discovered that he had eaten most a jar of chewable gummy multi-vitamins today.  Guess he doesn’t need any vitamins for a while.  On another note, he had to take a time out for lying about eating them.  We called poison control just in case we needed to be worried about something. While it isn’t recommended, there really isn’t a lot that can be done about it.  If he had just taken them, we could induce vomiting, but think that would be rather traumatic and a bit over the top.

Major kudos to the staff from the residential facility that he was recently discharged from.  They called three times today to see how things are going.  When our son finally goes back to public school, they will offer supports there as well.  Now to convince the school to let him back.  That is the key.

>1 year — a look back

>It has been a year since I started this blog and its corresponding facebook group. So much has happened.

Little did I know that M’s initial attack on his teacher would develop into 2 further attacks, 3 hospitalizations, probation, and a placement in a residential facility.  As a result we are exploring our legal options against the school district.  We are still holding M accountable for his actions, but feel that the school district should be held accountable for theirs as well.

The past year has seen major health challenges for me, as well as a redefinition of what it is to be a man, at least for me.  I am still struggling to come to terms with the things I have lost, and am learning to further embrace the things I hold dear to my heart.

Friends close to our hearts have been uprooted due to flooding in their communities, and we thank our blessings that we are not affected in the same manner.

As I close this, I find myself excited about the challenges that lay ahead and reminiscent of the past.  I thank the people in the facebook group for their support of both me and each other. I find it amazing that we can bring together people of diverse backgrounds to discuss a common issue.  I have heard from people across the United States about the impact of my blog, and even from someone in Singapore.

Thank you friends.