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Life, Liberty and the use of a computer

It’s in the past.

That is how David responds when we try to talk to him about the threats that he made toward that individual on facebook.

“I don’t want to talk about it, because it’s in the past.”

It was last Wednesday February 29.  Just because it is in the past doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about it.  He is not allowed to use computers.  So he argued with his mom about using the iPad.  So now he isn’t allowed to be in his room alone. Why? he steals and it is easier to keep an eye on him in the common areas rather than in his room.  Why?  He shares a room with his older brother and his older brother has a computer.

So very frustrated.  David managed to convince the hospital staff that he was an angel and didn’t get his medicine because mom and dad didn’t give it to him.

yeah, ok, obviously they don’t know my son.  I for one was not ready for him to come home. I don’t think that he was ready to come home.  The people in the psych ward never asked us our opinion.

So now what do we do?

Respite starts this weekend.  I am obligated to tell them what happened.  If he behaves like this, how long will they be his respite providers?  How long before he convinces them that we are the abusive parents that deprive him of life, liberty and the use of a computer…?

and so ends the great debate

Our youngest son David loves to argue.  Everything for him is something that can be debated.

Tell him that he needs to clean up his kleenex, and he will tell you why he can’t do it, and he might use something you said yesterday to him as an excuse.  Tell him he needs to eat his supper before he has a snack, and he will tell you that he ate his supper and then will tell you what he ate for lunch.  When you ask him who made this supper, he would say, so and so made it for me at lunchtime.  Well, since it is 6:30 in the evening, you need to eat a regular meal before you have a snack.

For discipline, one of the few things that works is to have him cover his head.  Normally we don’t keep him under there for more than about 10 minutes.  1 minute for each year of his life.  But, he will pop in and out with different questions, excuses and arguments for the next hour and never fully be disciplined for 10 minutes.  It doesn’t matter to him that he has been there for an hour, all that matters is he didn’t have to be under the blanket for 10 minutes.

So why had the debate ended?  He fell asleep. 🙂  I love him and tomorrow is a brand new day!

 

if I pull any more hair out, i’ll be bald

David is in full form tonight.  He is all wound up and attention needy.  Which means that he will do whatever it takes to get attention. Positive or Negative.

Now, some people say “ignore him”.

Easy for you to say, you don’t live with him 24/7.  When he gets like this the other kids hide, and everyone is just along for the ride.

So I am trying to keep him busy.  As part of that, I grant him amnesty for cleaning all of the stuff out of his play area that doesn’t belong to him.  Since he has a pretty serious issue with taking things that don’t belong to him, we can end up with quite a pile of stuff on the kitchen table.

Oh, wait, I hear his brother crying out David’s name in a way that can only make your nerves quake.  Time to mediate the fight.

If you need birth control, we will have you over for dinner one night, that should fix that problem.  In all seriousness though, even with the benefit of his many blessings, I love him dearly.  Just some days it gets to be a bit much.