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An update on David.

We are still here.  WhyNotFathers.com has been largely quiet because there hasn’t been a lot to say.

That has changed.

David’s behavior is becoming more erratic.  The residence has undergone a med wash with him.  A med wash is where they take him off all of his meds and put him on new ones.

This has been very difficult with out of control behaviors.  We are looking at a temporary placement in a different facility while he completes the med wash.  This other facility will be in a different town, around 5 hours from home.

If David remains out of control then he will need to be moved to a different facility – Long Term.

More as we hear about it.

 

Some days make everything worthwhile

English: A father and son silhouetted on the f...I will be the first to admit, raising a child with Reactive Attachment Disorder is a challenge.  Raising a David is an incredible challenge.

Today.

Made it all worthwhile.

I have chronic illnesses, and as a result, sometimes have difficulty sleeping.  Some days too much, other days, not at all.  Friday night was one of those “not at all” nights.  When I finally fell asleep at 6am, I was utterly exhausted.

9am, my phone rings.  David calling.  Any other time, I would love to talk to him.

Since he is on a kick right now where he is calling, I answered it.

“Dad, could we change our dad and me time?” he asked.

“What did you have in mind?” I asked wearily.

“How about we go to the 1 o’clock movie?  Epic.”  he stated.

And thus, my time with David bumped from 3pm to 1pm, and we went to a movie together.

It is one of the few times elation overcomes exhaustion.

The movie was good.  But the best part about it was David sitting in the chair next to me, asking me if I wanted some of his popcorn.  It doesn’t get better than that.

I found it to be incredibly cool that he asked.  I found it incredible that he had off-campus privileges.  This is one of the few times that I can remember that happening.  It doesn’t mean he is cured, but what it means is success.

Even a small step of success is something to be celebrated.

It is something that we can hope to achieve over and over again.

Of course, he didn’t sit still the whole movie, that wouldn’t have been like David at all, but it was good none the less.

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a smile, and a wakeup

My sleep schedule is messed up because of illness.  I might sleep 14 hours today and none tomorrow.  I sleep when my body lets me.

Today, I was in the middle of a rem cycle, and the phone rang.  How awesome that David called two days in a row.  He asked if I was sleeping, and I told him, “I am never too asleep to talk to you.”

I don’t know how long he will continue these calls, but any interruption in my day is welcome when it comes to him.  Yesterday he called twice.

Loving it.

During each conversation, he never stayed on one topic for more than a minute or two.