Monthly Archives: June 2015

Long term care facility and child custody

Over and over again in the last two days, I have asked doctors for help.  For recommendations regarding getting care for our son, David. The number one recommendation that all of the doctor’s make is that we give up custody.  “If you give up custody to the state, he will get services almost immediately.” stated one doctor. “We struggle with getting help for the kids all of the time, because the facilities put up road blocks to getting care for kids.” he further reported. “Bring him here, say that you can no longer take him home, and that you give up custody of him.”  was an additional point that the doctor made. The doctor won’t go on the record. The doctor reported as well that this is his experience in the state of North Dakota.  But will not go on record to talk with the head of the Department of

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Give him to the State!

So I repeatedly was told that the way it is typically done for kids to get mental health care is for the parents to give up custody to the state. The doctor said, “you should give up custody to the state if you don’t think that you can handle him.” I said no. There is more, but I have to process everything else that I was told before I go further here today. We are good parents, and this is what we are supposed to do to get him care. there is a huge flaw in the system of care if the only way to get him care is to turn him over to the state, or let him enter the legal system.  A huge flaw. Tweet #fighting4answrs

David is conning them.

David is coming home today. Yesterday he shared that he was thinking about killing himself. Today he denied telling me that. Today he is coming home. I expressed my frustration as kindly as I could to the social worker. She claims to understand.  But does she? Does she understand what it is to fear becoming a statistic in the news at the hands of a child?  Does she understand that we are afraid?  That we are concerned about the safety of not just mom and I, but the other kids in our home? She made some recommendations. We should call the Sheriff any time we don’t feel safe. We should call Child Protective Services and see if they can help.  (this means giving up custody) I promised David we would never give up. She then said that we need to utilize the safe bed before we even consider bringing him

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