We don’t need you to second guess our decisions about our sons care. We know his conditions better than just about anyone, including his medical team. Until you have lived in our home with him, experienced his violent temper, and manic behaviors, you can’t tell us that we are wrong to embark on the path that we are traveling. Do I wish things were different? Hell yes! No amount of wishing will make it so. We don’t need you to second guess our decision. We can do that on our own. Want to know what you can do to help? Talk to people in the mental health community. Offer to help them with a meal. Offer to run errands for them, or spend time visiting so that they can feel like humanity hasn’t disappeared. Offer to take their kids that don’t have mental illnesses or special needs out for a
yesterday, Friday, was something of a watershed moment for us. We realize that we are one day closer to moving David to another state for the ongoing care and treatment of his multifaceted mental illness. On Monday, December 23, we will have our last monthly staffing meeting for David. On Monday, December 23, we will celebrate Christmas with David. Sometime in the first two weeks of January, 2014, mom and I will make the trip to his new home with him. After that, there won’t be any more weekly visits. We will have Skype, but hugging a computer isn’t the same as hugging my son. We are happy that we get to spend one more Christmas with him close by. ====== I was thinking today, my childhood. See my brother and I are adopted. We share the same DNA, he is about 18 months older. So, I understand some of
So it seems like the residence where David is has this belief that after 1 year his issues should go away. If only mental illness worked that way. You know how it is.. on day 364, mental illness is still raging. on day 365, it is magically gone. yeah, that’s the ticket. Got an email from our staff today. They don’t know from hour to hour what David’s mood and behavior are going to be. Where have they been for the last 14 months? Has David not been in their care? We told them this when we filled out the placement application. Every month at our staffing we told them. When he becomes Manic, we tell them you need to update his meds. You need to change his meds. If he is displaying manic behaviors, his meds aren’t working. Every MONTH. David was born addicted to a lot of drugs.